save myself for marriage

I think there are more people who save themselves for marriage than we think. But the media practically tells people what is “normal.” and then I think it becomes normal. How many modern shows do you know where the characters actually wait until they’re married? Basically none. So I think people think “everyone does it” before marriage because that’s what they watch on TV etc. all the time. Actually, I live in a city where it’s normal to wait until marriage. Lots of religious people wait until marriage, but they aren’t as loud about it as those who don’t wait. My brother and sister both waited until marriage. They are happily married still.
It’s hard sometimes, but don’t give in. It’s worth it, I swear it is! It will make the moment even more special then if you didn’t wait.

Most people think waiting is stupid and they say “you gotta try it before you marry it” or something along the lines of that…. not so much me.

actually guys mostly prefer a girl who hasn’t been around the block and they think it’s great that they are the first person to share something special with.

I came SO CLOSE to doing it a couple weeks ago. I really liked the guy. He’s a close friend, and we had been sort of building up to this. But I’ve wanted to wait for as long as I can remember, and we weren’t even dating. It was so hard to say no, but I did.

But tonight I’m pretty sure he’s out banging another girl. I can’t imagine how bummed I would have been if I had given it up, only for him to moved on to the next girl.

Wipes her forehead Close one!

Long story short..I’ve been used many many times due to having pre-marital sex. I’m the type of person that tries to see the good in people, and I just get crapped on.

The most devastating crapping-on was when my boyfriend tried to kill me because I got pregnant by him. He got away scott-free, because there was no physical evidence of him trying to kill me. (Yeah right) I was thinking…if I decided to wait for marriage, then he would have been long gone (a good thing!) The good thing is…I have a beautiful child that I do not regret one bit bringing into this world.

The second most devastating crapping was when I had pre-marital sex with a guy that I thought liked me, but didn’t even want to look at, let alone hold my child. The last thing he said was “I’m not his father, go find a a daddy for your kid.”

Those two events were wake-up calls for me. I also became closer to God as well. But I not only did it for God, I did it for me. I came across two people (at least) who I found out were not worth giving my body to, which also told me that they weren’t worth my time, and DEFINITELY not good enough for marraige.

I wrote this entry one year ago and the task didn’t get easier. In fact it got harder once I entered into a serious relationship. When you love someone and you are physically attracted to them it is natural to want to share yourself with them. So how do you stay commited to abstinence?

Well first you have to commit yourself to God and prayer. You have to ask God daily to give you the strength to deny your flesh. It is truly a task for you and God to work out. Second, you need to be honest with your partner and let them know what you have decided to do and allow them to decide if they can handle the task. Don’t make the mistake of projecting your feelings on them or thinking they won’t understand. They may or may not. This is where your relationship with God comes in. Your commitment is to God and obedience brings about blessings (Isaiah 1:19). Never put any person above your commitment to God, it’s not worth it and they will only let you down.

In my case, I prayed about it sincerely and when I told my partner about my commitment, we got closer. He was not seeking to be abstinent at first, but God worked that out! His commitment to God and love for me helped him decide that God’s favor and our relationship was more important than short term pleasure. The enemy told me that once I stated my position, he would choose to leave. Although painful, I was prepared to deal with that, but God it worked out better than I ever expected.

Now it is still a daily struggle, don’t mistake it, but I know that as long as I stay connected to Christ I will be alright, with or without my current partner. I thank God for His favor because my friend and I are on the same page.

The wisdom that I would like to pass on is, don’t compromise! I have met plenty of guys who chose the easy route and left, but they don’t compare to the one I have now. Just line up with The Father and He will handle everything.

God Bless

I know it really hurt back in high school that a guy I used to like in junior high mocked me for waiting for marriage, but 5 years on I am still waiting and I have no regrets. I know that when I lay in bed with my beloved spouse for the first time I will have nothing to hide, I will give myself freely and openly to him, and he will have the satisfaction knowing that he’s the only guy I could ever want to make love too. It is not just about that the Church says sex before marriage is wrong and that I grew up wtih a lot of Catholic and Protestant Christian friends or that I attended bible and Christian camps back in junior high and high school. To to me its about what I think is the best for me and what would hurt my relationship with God. Scripture clearly states guys and gals are to abstain until marriage, scripture compares fornication to adultery. Many people feel hurt in society by infidelity yet they don’t understand that its the same thing as adultery. So if cheating on your spouse hurts,previous sexual relationships also hurt your spouse.If I fall in love with a guy who has made the mistake of premarital sex, but has repented and has been tested for STDS and HIV then I will give him a chance; however, it will still be akward on our wedding night and hurtful for me knowing that he didn’t think I was the one worth waiting for. Many people have sex in the moment, but in a moment you don’t kknow if you love the person, if your going to marry the person, if that person is just using to get into bed. What is sad about our society is that people equate sex just with pleasure. Yes pleasure is a part of sex, but the purpose of sex is to share an intimate relationship only with your spouse in your married bed and for the procreation of children. My question to people who have had sexual intercourse before marriage for society if sex is okay outside of marriage, if having kids outside of marriage is okay then why do you still want to get married?

i didn’t do it for god. i don’t believe in god.

i did it for me.

There is power in overcoming the physical with the spiritual… Regardless of one’s situation or background, much can be gained!!!!!!!

Ok.. so here it is people i’m 36 years old.. twice divorced with 1 child.. 8 months ago.. I started dating a man and we decided together being that we are both christians me being a recent convert that we would wait till marriage to become intimate with each other. Let me tell all you young’um that.. it has been the best decision of my life..

He is 53 years old.. yes thats a 17 year difference between us.. but we have by waiting to have sex forged a bond and respect for each other that I have never experienced heck that neither one of us have ever experience in any relationships we have had in the past.

We have truely learned to care for each other.. respect each other and we do spend 99.9% of our time together… We are now discussing a possible marriage in the future.. and he is the first man that I can actually see myself spending the rest of my life with.

Waiting for sex is the best thing you can do for yourself and your significant other.. i’ve been on both sides.. both my marriage involved pre marital sex..and both lasted very little time and involved very little respect and definately did not involved the bond i have developed in my new relationship.

say wait for sex.. its the best thing you can do for yourself your worth the respect and love you obtain from it.

God Bless!!

In understanding God’s word, he has called us to live a life that is holy and pleasing to Him. More specifically, Romans 12:1 states “Therefore, I urge you, in view of God’s mercy, to offer your bodies as living sacrifices, holy and pleasing to God, this is spiritual act of worship.”

This means that in light of God’s mercy toward us, it is reasonable and our duties to present ourselves as living sacrifices to God.

My body is His temple and I will present myself as a pleasing offering unto Him. I commend all of the young ladies and men who are committed to abstinence because it is not an easy decision but it’s worth it!