not let people "walk all over me"

If anybody can give me advice about how to do this, or how to stand up for myself, give me advice….PLEASE!

Its really a life long war I suppose, but i’m glad to say i’ve won quite a few battles. :) I don’t know what happened to me or when it did, but for some reason now its easier to voice my opinion or say what I really feel. I think I may still have trouble finding that thin line of balance… but i’m working toward it. I do feel happier and like a better person though.

I have my own thoughts and opinions and I just wanted to make that heard. I wont let others dictate me around anymore- I am who I am, and I want to show that to people.

I HAVE A HARD TIME VOICING MY OPION WHEN I HAVE ONE. I LET PEOPLE TAKE TO MUCH FROM ME, I DON’T KNOW HOW TO SAY NO. I NEED HELP WITH THIS. AND I’M HOPING SOMEONE CAN GIVE ME SOME INSPIRATION, AND ADVICE:)

strength to stand up for yourself without being a mean person is difficult… I continue to try to perfect this new found skill.

its like being too nice is getting me hurt by people and used all of the time. i dont know how to stop it but it absolutly kills me when im just trying to help out a friend and they take advantage of it.

I’ve been really trying to apply this to my life for some years now. I don’t deserve to have people take my goodness and run with it! I can demand respect by the way I act and I won’t let people bully me around. So I stand up for myself and take action when I see something isn’t right. I am looking out for myself when I take action for example someone took their break while the busiest time of the shift and while the rules are we are supposed to work together. The co-worker is new only 3days on the job and didn’t realize the certian hour we do certain things. So the next time she worked I boldly asked her if she was going to take her break at an earlier time so that we could do the job that she knows we are supposed to do at the certian time allotted. She had agreed and went on her break. Now I didn’t do it rudely or in a bossy way but suggested that she should do better this next night and all nights to follow and it worked. Even my co-workers who noticed her bossiness said that my assertiveness got her to do something she otherwise may not have done. Thats all I want. If someone is being bossy I’ve got to be a bit assertive back so they know I’m in charge of me and not them in charge of me, as long as its not a boss directing me what I need to do—-this was a peer of mine. All situations are well, situational and each situation need some thinking beforehand. But I’ve lived my life being everyone’s doormat and I”m old enough to take that away and be nobody’s doormat and I am not going to have people trample over me ANYMORE!!! It takes practise and trial and error but we can all do it without feeling like a meanie. Some people will respect what it is you are standing up for if you tell them what your needs and wants are. We are all entitled to peace of mind!!!

ok i have been trying but i feel like im being a bitch