Love my Husband

I try really hard not to let trivial things get in the way of this, but today, I’m struggling. I am off today, after working 45 hours this week, and have been enjoying the day, going out running, to the grocery store, and all that other stuff that I needed to do. I walk in the door and am confronted with the reality of a sink (and stove, and table) full of dishes, including ALL of the ones I need to make dinner for tonight. Now, because the sink is full, it’s not a terribly simple matter to just wash out the ones I need to cook dinner. I first need to move (or wash) the ones in the sink before I can get close to the ones that I need.

Doing the dishes is my lovely husband’s job. It’s really the only one he has in the house. I cook, he does dishes, and I usually do pretty much everything else. That’s how it’s supposed to work. It is very difficult to cook when all of the dishes are dirty and have been so for a week. GRRRRRRR. I still love the man dearly, but would it have killed him to use some of the time he had on his several days off this week to do the dishes???

My sister just got married and watching her do so reminded me how lucky I am to have the man that I have as a constant part of my life. He truly is my everything and I need to work harder to show my appreciation.

I read somewhere that we fall in love with someone because of they way they make us feel when we’re with them. Since we’ve been married, my husband seems to bring out the worst in me, and much of the time makes me feel pretty crappy. I know he says what he does because he wants me to be a better person, so I try not to take it too personally, and work to change these small things. I want to feel better so I’m going to work on doing what will make him happier to see if it makes me feel better when I’m with him. It’s definitely worth a try.

We have learned to laugh—at ourselves. By not taking ourselves too seriously we are able to over look eachothers faults.

Josh is being a total douche right now so its kinda hard to do at this moment.

because he’s worth it!

I love my husband but the problem is that he has Asperger’s Syndrome. Asperger’s Sydrome is a neurological condition that limits one’s ability to communicate effectively and form satisfying, functional interpersonal relationships. But, it’s not even that because many people with Asperger’s have adjusted to their limitations and have gone on to be quite successful, like Bill Gates and Steven Spielburg. It’s more the chronic depression, the toxic self-esteem, the defensiveness, anxiety, neurosis, the self-pity and subsequent hostility. No, it’s not even that because most men are like that to one degree or another. It’s more than he has no interest in sex. But we stay together because, God love him, inspite of all his troubles, he still gets up and goes to work everyday. What a trooper!

I am so proud of my husband. He loves me and supports me no matter what. I want to love him forever and he feels the same way. He tells me I treat him like a king, and he hopes that he treats me like his queen, because that is how he sees me. I think that has really helped us keep love strong, to love and give generously, without worrying what we will get in return. Because he treats me like some goddess(and I don’t see myself that way)I treat him like he is the most amazing person in the world… and it becomes a cycle. A lot of women have tried the generous husband/generous wife approach and say it is amazing how strong and loving their marriages are.

My husband and i have been through so much together. i came from a well-off family. i had a good head on my shoulders. i was the most ambitious person i knew. he came from an entirely different world where it wasn’t about money or becoming a doctor…it was about family and standing by them no matter what. After being kicked out of my house right after my high school graduation. No car, no phone, no money except for my graduation money….i had nothing. i left the life i knew and moved into his. His family took me in, helped me get a job, welcomed me more than my own family did, and they even still give me advice to this day. As an 18 year old female it has NOT been in any way easy starting over. Its hard working and going to school full time, trying to pay bills when i had never dealt with any hardship in my life before. And everyone told me that it was a huge mistake to get married so young. No one was happy for us. everyone thought we were dumb. My friends stopped talking to me—-it was awful. But i am now married to the most wonderful man i have ever met. He is my best friend in the entire world. There is nothing i can’t tell him. He does everything in the world for me. He makes me happier than i could ever imagine being and i have no regrets. I’m GLAD i did everything i did to be with him because “its us against the world” We argue a lot and we are completely different people but at the end of the day there is no person in the world i would rather argue with. I love him so much its overwhelming. Wow…that’s all i have to say.

And I’ve loved him since he kissed me … so this goal is more like an ongoing process. We’re still doing good after two years of marriage and a baby boy (and he is the one cheering my goal ;))