get over a broken heart

I lost the only person that made me happy..
I’m extremely sad, its been months now, and I cant move on.
there is nothing that moves my life now. I want to be happy again.

I want to stop talking about it
Stop thinking about it
Be able to really, truly move on

A month ago , the love of my life, who has suffered from, depression, and ptsd from the iraq war just packed his clothes and walked out of my life he said he needed to be alone…. only explanation after two years… i was and still am completely devastated, and heartbroken… have been thriugh alot even divorce in the past but have never… ever felt this way… i have a wonderful career as a personal trainer, am able to support myself financially, have three wonderful children…and know i am so lucky and should be greatful for the things i have, but it has been a month and i do not feel any better than the first day…. i feel like i am dying of a broken heart. I just want some releif

Well I recently lost the love my life. Me and my closest companion decided that it was time we part ways. As of right now I am torn apart. I don’t know what to do.

She always knew I was a sad person so she always tried to help me. A few months ago she told me that a website called 43Things might help me feel better about things and I never tried it.

Now that the relationship is over I thought about joining, I did, funny thing is that we no longer are together.

Okay so now I am 18, and have been apart from my ex for 5 months. We were together for two years, and I was constantly at his house. He was my first and i was his and for the first years things were perfect and we were in love. I always had my friends telling me he wasn’t trustworthy nor did he love me, but i turned a blind eye because I didn’t want to believe this.

Then right before we finished school he told me it was over because he didn’t love me anymore. I was devestated and told him i would change just so I could still have him.

Things were great for the summer holidays but then in Feb, we were on a break for one weekend and i found out he slept with another girl. I was devestated, like my whole world crashed and i tried to break up with him. He held me back saying he was in love with me and promised to never do it again. I believed him.

In April I turned 18 and we drifted since then, I still heard stories about him and other girls, but i never believed anyone. He promised me he was loyal.

A day before he turned 18 in August I broke up with him. I had a surpirise for his 18th birthday at my house, but he said he was too tired and didnt show.

I tried to get with him a week later… I did every thing, an even told him i was pregnant just to get him back.

Since then we have mended things. I have found a new guy who treats me and appreciates me for the person I am, but i smetimes still have my ex on my mind. He still calls me, to tell me bout his new girl and the problems they are having. I went to his house last night and his family said they all missed me and all the emotions came back to me. He’s moving house, so when I went into his bedroom, it was like a part of me had left the room that was also mine for the past two years.

I have come to realise I am not in love with him, I just love him and theres a difference. His new girl has cheated on him and he has realised loyalty is hard to come by and he told me to never loose that trait, because he took it for granted. I am just waiting for the day that I dont have any feeling of sadness, anger, hatred when I hear people have seen him out with his new girl or having fun.

i moved to another country for this guy.. some where i had no family, no friens, didn’t know the language..all for him..it all got too much for me and i left to return home… i never stopped thinking about him for 8 months then he came home for a month and we got back together. we argued alot and i know we’re not good for each other any more but now hes just left and i might not ever see him again and i just want to move on but im scared it will b a repeat of the last 8 months…i feel im in a rut.. i use to be so happy and carefree and fun loving but these days i just feel drained and i feel like ive lost my spark..i just want to start enjoying life again.

I m so frustrted ive been away from hem for 5months, well ive seen hem but we have not live together or interacted that much like befor. I BE DOING SO GOOD A COUPLE OF DAYS GO BY AND THEN BOOM that quick hes back in my mind, back n my thoughts, he is raging me making me think crazy thought about hurting hem, for hurting me. revenge is not the enswer i know but i just dont know what else to do i lovvvvvvvve hem and he dont love me back, how do i exsept that. what do i do we were together for a year none stop everyday and know nothing i am so lost with out hem or is that just in mind that ive got to have hem who is he anyway what is so great a bout them any way. honestly everything he sweep me off my feet then through me out like scraps how do i exsept hem loving me then leaving me. what do i do this is making me be a bitch to all other guys who dont want t o hurt me. you get anything that could help me let me know. thanks juanita

this will be my biggest challenge yet… to let go of a love i thought was true and meaningful that i would grow old with. little did i know the man who i loved betrayed me in ways that led me to the darkest days of my life. the hurt of deceit, the saddness of lost love, the lying, the rug that was pulled out from under me left me in shock, denial, and shattered.

i will get over you
i will persevere
i am resilient
i will be a stronger woman because of this
i am free from you

i am free.

We can’t control others. Why should we settle for less than someone who takes care of hearts?

I had an online relationship that I wasn’t even looking for in a Christian chat a few years ago. When I met him he told me his marriage was over. He flirted with me very aggressively. Gradually I found out that she was still in the house. He would come on strong and then back down…absolute aggressive passive thing. Finally, I stopped chatting. A long time went by. He said three years? I don’t know why, one night recently I stopped by the same chat room and there he was. He told me that she left him a while back and that he was going to pursue me. I had a little hope, because I thought he had put his past behind him. I shared my heart and soul with him. Then he started his same double mindedness that he did before. He said it was all a fantasy…that we didn’t have a relationship, but he would see me around and continued to hang in my chat box. All I can say is that I was pretty guarded. Even though I did share too much of my heart with him this time, I was prepared for it to blow up. He just has issues and is emotionally unavailable. One of my good friends here on 43 told me guys like that hide their insecurities behind a computer. I’m sure there are women who abuse also. I have decided to keep it in perspective. If we are to find love, we may encounter some broken hearts along the way. I think if we keep loving ourselves first, then we won’t settle. Besides I have some friends who met in that chat…They got married! Here’s a song for all of us who aren’t willing to stay in pain!http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_h2uJ5YgYsk