Say "no" every time i feel like it and not feel guilty

I’ve managed to say no to some people, but it’s like I’ve been programed to feel bad about things. As a matter of fact I just tried to make excuses for something I don’t want to do and the person asking just made me feel like the biggest pile of shit that walks this earth for it. This always happens, especially when it pertains to family. I’m 23 and I want to have some say in my life, for once.

I started the whole saying no part…but the not feeling guilty is sometimes a problem.

...saying no doesn’t just mean declining something.

Saying no can also be standing your ground, not taking the hooey of others, staying true to yourself; smiling in the face of adversity and all that.

Well see how it goes.

I still feel bad, but nowadays it’s also kind of accompanied by being indignant, depending on the situation.

It’s easier to say no in a professional setting, I guess. I don’t know…it’s still kind of hard to say that to my friends sometimes. :( Sad. I’m working on it.

Mastered it :) (mostly ;))

I always say yes, even when I want to say no and I am tired of it!

How do I not feel guilty?

I am very easily guilt tripped. I’m aware that I’m very easily guilt tripped… and yet I still fall for it. I end up doing all kinds of things, that other poeple should be doing, purely because I can’t say, “No, do it yourself.” or “No, I just don’t want to.”

I can’t say no. (except to my kids) I am a yes person…I can do anything person. I feel a weakness when I say no. I know that if I learned how to deal with this behavior, life would be so much less stressful on me. I just have to do it. I am going to attempt to try this goal today to see if I can do it…