overcome my insecurities

i have so much to be gratefull for but it seems that it doesnt make me happy…I take things too personally and sometimes get a little emotional for silly small things….Why do i want everything now why cant i wait for things to happen and go my way…

I wear myself out trying to get approval all the time.It feels like im trying to do so much before i die,i have this constant eminition that Im about to die-not by my own doing but by some mysterios disease or something.

I have many insecurities that have came about through years and years of bullying and negative experiences with others, i find it hard to trust people and i find it hard to trust myself, i constantly put myself down, i want to believe in myself and recognize my potential and be a strong and happy person

I have a major problem with insecurities, and I feel it is messing up the one good chance I have with someone I met. How do I overcome these feelings?

I have the best boyfriend ever but no matter how much he says he wants nothing to do with his exes my last 2 relationships have left me bruised and broken. My last 2 exes had unusually (in hindsight) friendly love/hate relationships with thier exes and later left me for them. I realize now that the difference with my present relationships and my past is that before I was a rebound girlfriend, and now both of us were single for over a year before dating. I still just can’t seem to think he loved her more because she was more beautiful, had a nicer body, or had some kind of mystical power over him that made him want to run up his credit and be miserable. Don’t get me wrong i want in no way to make him miserable, unfortunately my constant analyzing is doing just that. I want my confidence back, and I want to stop making my boyfriend re-assure me hes not leaving…because I fear eventually he will.

Where instead of assuming that people dislike me, I can ask them. It appears that those I thought hated me really don’t… and those who do are willing to tell me to my face. It’s really nice feeling.

– I am crazy believe me! And worst of all, I know it but unable to do anything about it.

I will overcome my insecurities. I have good times and I have bad times, but in the end I will do this…I will do it for me.

I have lived with severe insecurity since I was very young. I was a shy kid, always hiding behind my mother’s leg; vulnerable to being hurt by another’s thoughtless comment since I can remember. I’ve always been an introvert, locking myself inside of my head when I didn’t feel comfortable participating or even acknowledging reality. I did this through obsessions: books, certain people and later drug addiction… all of these horrible things with their horrible outcomes stemmed from insecurity and fear of other people and their judgments.

I’ve gotten over this in some ways, but in many I am still crippled by it. I can find no logical reason for it. I’ve been told by my guru that it must be something I’ve carried over from a previous lifetime. Whatever it is, I think of it as the demon inside of me! Many of us carry this self destructive being in our heads… a part of us that is not really US but IS… you know? In a certain 12-step program we call it our disease. It’s abstract and cunning and very sneaky and wants us to feel badly about ourselves. I’ve discovered that these insecurities come more from my OWN feelings about myself than those of others. I take life too seriously. If my image of myself is good and stable, I don’t worry as much about what other people think. When I have a realistic perspective going on, I can realisitically participate in life without fear.

Of course, that’s easier said than done.

The worst part about being insecure is knowing how undeniably stupid it is. There is no reason for it when you really think about it, yet it is there and very tough to kick.

I can’t remember the last time i had a night out and not worried about what people see when they look at me. I can hardly remember the last time i went out clubbing properly because i’ll have to wear frumpy clothes to feel comfortable physically, but those frumpy clothes make me feel unsexy and it all perpetuates what i already feel, im ugly, uninteresting, overweight and no one would look twice.

I have a fiance who has given up reassuring me after 6 years together, the fact that we go out and women still have their eyes all over him on the one hand should give me confidence that a man so beautiful still sees fit to be with me, but then i think if i’m good enough for him why don’t i get more attention? Not that i want to pull, it’s just always nice to catch someone looking at you, and for some reason when anyone does come anywhere near me im horrid to them, i suppose in case they find that i’ve nothing interesting to say!!

I’m a shadow of my former self, i used to be the life and soul, i need to get back to being me, if that’s what i want to be and i have been it before then it shouldn’t be too hard should it?

since a young girl, i’ve been insecure. i guess since a lot of my family was never there for me. trusted and betrayed by many. i need to love myself more and know that i’m a good person. i worry to much about what people think about me. i compare myself to everyone. why? so I stop and will try to overcome my insecurities!!!