charbox27 is trying to stay awake so I can finish my homework.
I really suck at this. I guess we’ll see where this goes.
How I did it: Step by step, I start talking with people i don't know. Twitter help a lot, because you "meet" them before you actually meet them, and when you see other people, you already have subjects to talk about. Read how I did it…
How I did it: I had graduated from university and moved to a new town, so I wasn't meeting people as easily as in a university setting. For awhile, I didn't meet anyone!I started volunteering at a non-profit place that requires you to talk to people in order to help them get the right information. After sitting at home alone for so long, I was glad for the conversation with other volunteers and people being helped.I also joined a local mart… Read how I did it…
How I did it: It was gradual. I went to HS with a bunch of douche bags who didn't make any effort to know me and mostly ignored me as if I was nothing, so inherited that and I saw that as a fault of my own instead of theirs. So forgetting that was the first step. Realizing that there were people who wanted to get to know me for what was inside and wanted to make the effort. As people got to know me, in college, I felt more… Read how I did it…
How I did it: Go to university, then got a job as a teacher.I went to university in a country half the world away from home and somehow it made me feel less self-conscious. I met new friends and none of them had expectations of me being who I used to be. So I could create a whole new "me"... which was sort of faked confidence at first, but this grew into something slightly more real over time.Being a teacher was scary at first. Speaking in front of peo… Read how I did it…
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How I did it: Realizing no one person is superior to another; I will say what I want to say if there's something to be said. Not caring what is thought or said of me, I'll continue to evolve into the sweet and kind spirited person that I am whilst interjecting randomness into the day of a complete stranger or friends. :) Read how I did it…
charbox27 is trying to stay awake so I can finish my homework.
I really suck at this. I guess we’ll see where this goes.
I was very shy since i was young and now i am more less shy.
I did not go to the best junior high and high school and for what i remember they are bunch of bullies in my school. I learned from friends not to let go of my past and be more confident and i love myself yes, it is important people have to learned to love themselves
and it will help to let your shyness much better.
Lezzlie Xl days. i wanna tell you all about it.
ugh. back to this again. i need to work on this!
though, i think it may not be shyness that i need to avoid.
i am just not very forward.
in the least bit..
hmm.. some signals would be nice though.
i dont want to be made a fool.
PhoenixTail feels like progress.
It sucks that I’m not shy when I’m drunk. lol _
I guess if there’s one thing I can say for myself it’s that I talk to more people then I have before. I’m not quiet in a group anymore. I still can’t randomly walk up to strangers without substances in me. Kinda sad really, but at least I’m alot better then I was many moons ago.
katrinabeee busyyyyy
i was always pretty shy as a youngster, but I think that most kids are. i just wanted to be left alone by people. and when they would try to entertain me or such, i’d get very distressed.
these days, i’m pretty much the same. i hoped i’d grow out of that phase, but it seems like old habits die hard, or something. well, recently, i started getting help for it. i see a therapist every week who encourages me to tell her about my problems.
next week when i see her, i’m going to be completing a task that she’s set me. we’ll be going to a cafe and i have to order drinks for us both. while many people think it’s easy to do that, for me it’s incredibly hard. i hate even speaking in public, because…. well, i don’t quite know. i guess it’s because i don’t like being noticed; i just like to fade into the background. and so when i have to ‘put myself out there,’ i start to panic.
i’m really not looking forward to next week, but i also know that unless i at least try to do it, i’ll be stuck in this rut for years to come. onwards and upwards, right?
woohoo! let’s go! :D
This is a toughie.
Especially when all I want to do is leave college & go home.
I don’t like it here & withdraw myself from so many opportunities to be social.
The thing is, I like being a loner.
I am a very introverted person.
I wish I was more social…but then again, I don’t.
Lezzlie Xl days. i wanna tell you all about it.
lately i have been very quiet. especially when in groups.
and it gets quite awkward.
they say something, like, ‘why so quiet?” and just stuff like that, and i honestly just have nothing to say.
i am more of an observer than a talking when around people i dont know, especially in groups of 3 or more.
but its much harder to explain than one may think.
so i will keep trying.
but i have been doing better than i use to be.
i think this whole loneliness phase has put me back a few steps…
I’m really shy around people i don’t know that well, i can’t help it. i absolutly hate it! but i always find myself stuck on what to say, or i’ll say something but (me and my quiet voice) sometimes i feel like people don’t pay attention. anyways.. Any suggestions on what i can talk about with people i don’t know that well, like ice breakers or something? Or on any ways that can bring me out of my shell? please and thanks! -
Evilyn O. Moriarty The air smells like Autumn!
for me is going to be college.That’s where I shall prove to myself that I’m not that shy anymore and that I’m less self conscious.
It’s really a great way to meet new people and make some new friends,since everyone is new there and nobody knows nobody,so there’s a more friendly atmosphere because everybody wants to get along with each other and make friends.
But I believe that for me,the real challenge is not talking to complete strangers,but finding people with who I can communicate and be my true self.
See,I’m a rock chick I may say,and I find it absolutely impossible to really bond and communicate with somebody who,for instance, listens to rap,pop or r’n’b music.It’s just that we share different views and opinions.
Yep,because I trully believe that the genre or whatever you want to call it of music one likes to listen to,makes a major difference of how one perceives the world around them.
For me,music taste makes a major difference.
But it’s not like I couldn’t get along with someone who listens to a different kind of music than me,but still has an amazing personality.Personality is definately number 1 priority,so perhaps I should be a little more open to the possibility of meeting people that may listen to different type of music,but still look at life kinda like I do…
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Clouds
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thabeathasarrived asks,
“I start a new school in a week. I'm not very confident about how i look. Any advice for me start out as loud and outgoing?”
— 2 years ago |
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angelofmuzik361 asks,
“I'm switching schools this year and I want to make a lot of new friends. I'm kinda shy and quiet but i want to change that and be more outgoing. Does anyone have any advice?”
— 3 years ago |
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Hamburg
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Neuron2k7 asks,
“I would like to know what you see or do differently now, if you used to be shy but aren't anymore. What exactly have you changed since then?”
— 3 years ago |
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Wellington
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Mickey Moo asks,
“How can I talk to people at my work more? I have nothing in common with them.”
— 3 years ago |
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New York State
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BabyGurl1992 asks,
“How can I overcome my shyness?”
— 4 years ago |
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Katie117 asks,
“I'm just so edgy and nervous around people,I blush ALOT and can never think of anything to say,people just end up pushing me out of conversations,I just want to feel more comfortable in social situations.Any advice?”
— 4 years ago |
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