be independent

Danielle saved my life on this one! I am forever indebted to her! I still can barely afford this, but I have a 7 month lease and I am moving out of Mom and Dad’s! FINALLY! 30 months is enough! This is one giant leap for me and I am SO excited! I can’t wait to get my change of address forms and move in!

I work full-time, I live on my own (just me! In a flat! And I’m managing really well!), I manage my money, I make all my decisions. So for the first time, I can honestly say I am completely independent.

Now I just need to get out of my emotional dependence (needing others’ approval, feeling I NEED him when he so obviously does not need me, being unable to think up a future of what I really want that is not completely focused on a man and babies) and I’d truly be able to put this as done.

I want to be less dependent on my best friend/ex-boyfriend. I want to have more self-worth without depending on his opinion. I want to spend more time away from him and doing things on my own. I want to not feel like I need to be with him so often. I don’t get a lot of my goals achieved because I spend so much time just having fun with him and not doing anything productive. I need to reduce time spent with him and leave his house when I know I should and just ignore my feelings of reluctance.

The amount represents all of the money that I should have had to pay in rent. My parents were generous enough to not charge me rent when I lived at home after college. I feel that when I can finally repay all this money I am truly grown up.

Okay, I know that this is nothing but I was thinking that I could , instead of waiting for Kevin to make my fish, maybe I should for a change , make it my own . I think I need to start cooking for myself again, and stop acting like a dasmel in distress on the time.

This is by far the most important goal on my entire list! Accomplishing this goal will be soul satisfying on so many levels! I want to be on my own and responsible for me! I WILL SUCCEED!

Well I’ve got a good stable job, though it doesn’t bring loads of money, but enough to live on. And I finally feel totally grown-up. 21 years old – high time. I’m going to move out in September – we’ll see how I manage.

I’m so glad I took the opportunity when I did. I had rural placement for 2 weeks and in that time I’ve grown up so much. I’ve learnt so much about other people who previously were just familiar faces in a lecture hall, to learning to do chores for myself—yes, I was actually excited about learning to cook, clean and iron for myself. It sounds sad, a 20 year old female who didn’t know how to do any of these things up till 2 weeks ago, but let’s just say a domineering, very territorial and possessive mother got in the way of things. I am so grateful for the two girls who took pity on me and taught me how to cook. Karma really does shine on you sometimes.

Now, I may be closer to independence I think. If I cannot find a graduate position in Sydney, I will have to move out. Who knows where I may find myself six months from now? Re: financial plans, I have a tidy $10k saved up, so all I have to do is physically move out. Looking forward!

being independent wont burden people. it shows my bf that i have a life and that he and i have own space. it will also show people that im reliable. it can help be stronger as im on my own.
haha my mum always tells me to be an independent woman incase my future husband cheats on me or sumthing and i wont have to stick with him or cry and get so misereable etc. i’d have my own money and have a new life =D

In college is when I think I was my happiest. I was doing well acedemically, I socialised a lot & met new people frequently, I spent time with my family and had a part time job that I enjoyed. And most importantly I felt confident about all these things. I think independece fuels confidence because it proves to yourself that you can do it on your own.

I’m now at university, living with my boyfriend, with close relationships with my family and old friends, I have a new group of friends and I’m pretty much financially independent.

However I don’t feel independent. I’ve done all this with the help of my boyfriend so I don’t feel like I’ve achieved it. I think I can be quite a paranoid person. I hate crowded places & don’t really do things on my own out of the house. I’d ike to be able to do simple things like go food shopping or go to get a hair cut or go for a walk on my own.

I think the way forward is ignore what my boyfriend is doing and do what I want to do. Don’t think that just because he doesn’t want to, I can’t. Be more optimistic & forceful.