transcend binary gender logic

She was holding one of the children, and said:

“we are putting this in your hair because you are a girl”

I gave her a look, and admonished her… and suggested:

“we are putting this in your hair to help keep the hair out of your eyes.”

it’s all pretty ambiguous, or maybe ambidextrous sometimes.

there were links to chimeras, and hermaphrodites.

I was thinking that there must be some more studies to be done, that show the true variance in gender from a biological standpoint. So many of us that live within one learned gender might actually be something in between, and not even realize it.

could explain a desire to “transcend”?

I took a cheesey test that defined me as a “granola dyke.”

then I did one a little more serious about detecting brain sex. (http://www.bbc.co.uk/science/humanbody/mind/index_surveys.shtml)

I came up as 50/50. big surprise.

I’m going to have to retake the test, b/c I forgot to save my results, but this one seems more scientific than like a joke quiz.

outside of spending time around a lot of women’s studies majors, I’ve never found a real forum for discussion.

one part of identifying as a lesbian has to do with my confusion about my personal gender identity. I am labeled as femme, feminine… when that is mostly just my body and ballet training, inside I’ve always felt much more ambiguous.

STRENGTH. my always goal. It made me feel so much cockier to be strong than to be pretty.

what happens when you know you are woman, when you don’t believe in changing what you were born with, but have a hard time being a woman… because people perceive you as a particular type of woman, and all the while, you are trying to present other versions of woman, b.c somehow you want their version of you to be so much closer to your version.

Gender is so changing, so grey-area.

Especially if my own personal gender identity falls closer to one end of the spectrum than the other.

Really, I suppose the concept of a spectrum is limiting and one-dimensional (since it has only two ends). We need another axis to make it a two-dimensional grid, or another still to make our concept of gender three-dimensional.

But anyway, I love the spirit of it.

..and you’ll see a society that has somehow done this already…it’s pretty cool…although, in real life, it’s not as arty as the title of this “Thing” makes it seem. Stupid reality.

As far as I’m concerned, being any gender is a drag. -Patti Smith

resources i reccomend:

• womens_studies
• genderads.com
• my gender workbook by kate bornstein
• the music of bitch & animal

I hadn’t even thought about this, not clearly anyway, until I took Women Studies classes in college and then I’m like “Why the hell are these classes not in high school? Life would’ve made a lot more sense!”

And I try to add use pronouns like “ze” and “zir” now and some people denounce it but still…

A creation of western society. Gender does not equal sex or sexuality. Male – female: Black and white: they are on the opposite ends of an immense spectrum of physical, emotional and spiritual identity, many of which cannot be defined using conventional language.