learn to flirt

I think the first step in learning to flirt is watching a small child. Have you ever noticed how attracted people are to babies & toddlers? How these little tikes seem to have a natural flirt ability? Their smiles come from the heart…they’re genuinely interested in the interaction.

Opportunities to flirt abound, whether it be with the check-out clerk, someone you’re standing in line behind, or someone you’re talking with at a party. This casual flirting gives you a natural boost and makes the other person feel good, too.

Too often we go through the day thinking only of ourselves & our issues. Frustrations are visited on unwary bystanders…service seem too slow at the coffee shop? The flower shop doesn’t have the particular flowers you want? Do you lash out and make the other person feel impotent? Or do you smile & adapt to the situation?

A little bit of flirting with everyone you meet makes your day & theirs brighter. There doesn’t need to be any ‘intent’ behind the flirt. Again, think of the toddler who gives you that winning smile just because you’re looking at him or her.

I want to try flirtting as a fun. I think that it brings lots of positive emotions. Moreover, it makes a woman smiling, the best thing I ever met….

Would love to be more at ease with people-

Well, I practised this yesterday on the train. I’m not very good at flirting, and it was a long train journey, so I took to looking up at nice looking men and smiling at them through my eyelashes as they passed by. Sounds terrible, huh? But every single one smiled back, and one guy went through to the refreshment carriage five times in about two hours – no one could drink that much coffee, surely? And I got into a kind of game of smiling with recognition when he passed, and he smiled back nicely and made eye contact.

I’m not trying to pull strangers – I’m just trying to see myself as beautiful and desirable. I know intellectually that I’m pretty; I’ve taken loads of photos of myself, and I can honestly see that I am a very pretty fat woman. I always think that the fat part of the equation cancels out the very pretty part, so I feel a bit invisible normally. The learn to flirt resolution is fun and so far I’m making myself make eye contact, smile, talk to strangers and have a bit of a giggle. It’s surprising how good it makes me feel about myself.

While at work,I’ve been flirted with by male customers a couple of times,but the fact that anyone is actually intersted freaks me out so much that I just avoid eye contact and blush like crazy :/ I’ve always been the quietly-pine-from-afar type,so hopefully I can improve my “technique”.

I was parking my car, and thought I recognized a guy standing outside the door of the building, across the parking lot, so I smiled and waved to him. Then as I was walking across the parking lot, I realized that he was not who I thought that he was, and he didn’t quite know what to make of all my unexpected attention to him.

Maybe it’s not an all bad thing that I need new glasses. :)

finally! i’ve done something here.
i had to carry a lot of supplies back to our area. then a guy from another department, passed by, i smiled at him (the most flirtatious smile that i ever produced lol)... then without saying anything, he offered to lend a hand. hahaha no sweats! the killer smile stole that ER nurse for a few minutes from their busy department. and inside the elevator, he was obviously flirting with me too. hahaha

In three days a guy who liked me refused to speak to me anymore… well maybe until tomorro. Why? I started asking intence questions. Can you blame me though? He asked me to come visit him in Florida which I cheerfully agreed to do (I live in Toronto), but both our budgets are tight.
He hinted that if things work out for us, he might move to Canada. That got me thinking “he’s serious!” so I baraged him with questions. Poor guy, he said “This is too much for me and I dont want to talk about it anymore”.
But he is a flirty guy so How do I match someone like his’ flirtyness. How do I not turn him off with grave practicality and directness? I’ve never played games. maybe I should learn?

Of course i wasnt to learn how to flirt. I want to be seductive and attractive….. who doesn’t?

whenever a potential flirting object looks at me, i look away. i wanted to smile but omg…i just shy away. i probably dont give them the impression that im shy…maybe they see me as a snob. Bad.
But i swear..next time..next time really…i’ll do something. whew!