learn to flirt

so last night I went to a club for the first time. I had so much fun! I was just dancing with my girls, and then this guy wanted to dance. I was the first one in my group to get an offer, which was surprising to me. unfortunately the guy was really aggressive, which i wasn’t feeling, so i passed him off to my friend.

then soon afterwards, this other guy asked, and he was so much fun. he actually talked to me and he didn’t try to be raunchy. but he was a good dancer. we danced to billy jean, apple bottom jeans, jump, and a few other songs. but then my friend who was stuck with the raunchy guy needed to be saved, so i had to tell mine that i had to go. i felt so bad afterwards. i would’ve danced with him more!

anyway, this has definitely helped my confidence :)

I’m finding that many people are unaccustomed to flirting. They don’t know how to respond and often assume they’re being ‘hit on’ in a more intentional way. They either withdraw from the interaction, or become too aggressive, wanting to pursue a relationship.

So, be mindful of flirting in the workplace or elsewhere where you’ll continually run into the same people. If you’re not looking for a relationship, keep the flirtation light and general.

Flirting can be fun, and doesn’t have to lead to something more serious. Living life in a flirtatious manner can make the life of everyone you touch more enjoyable, including yours.

I think the first step in learning to flirt is watching a small child. Have you ever noticed how attracted people are to babies & toddlers? How these little tikes seem to have a natural flirt ability? Their smiles come from the heart…they’re genuinely interested in the interaction.

Opportunities to flirt abound, whether it be with the check-out clerk, someone you’re standing in line behind, or someone you’re talking with at a party. This casual flirting gives you a natural boost and makes the other person feel good, too.

Too often we go through the day thinking only of ourselves & our issues. Frustrations are visited on unwary bystanders…service seem too slow at the coffee shop? The flower shop doesn’t have the particular flowers you want? Do you lash out and make the other person feel impotent? Or do you smile & adapt to the situation?

A little bit of flirting with everyone you meet makes your day & theirs brighter. There doesn’t need to be any ‘intent’ behind the flirt. Again, think of the toddler who gives you that winning smile just because you’re looking at him or her.

I want to try flirtting as a fun. I think that it brings lots of positive emotions. Moreover, it makes a woman smiling, the best thing I ever met….

Would love to be more at ease with people-

While at work,I’ve been flirted with by male customers a couple of times,but the fact that anyone is actually intersted freaks me out so much that I just avoid eye contact and blush like crazy :/ I’ve always been the quietly-pine-from-afar type,so hopefully I can improve my “technique”.

I was parking my car, and thought I recognized a guy standing outside the door of the building, across the parking lot, so I smiled and waved to him. Then as I was walking across the parking lot, I realized that he was not who I thought that he was, and he didn’t quite know what to make of all my unexpected attention to him.

Maybe it’s not an all bad thing that I need new glasses. :)

finally! i’ve done something here.
i had to carry a lot of supplies back to our area. then a guy from another department, passed by, i smiled at him (the most flirtatious smile that i ever produced lol)... then without saying anything, he offered to lend a hand. hahaha no sweats! the killer smile stole that ER nurse for a few minutes from their busy department. and inside the elevator, he was obviously flirting with me too. hahaha

In three days a guy who liked me refused to speak to me anymore… well maybe until tomorro. Why? I started asking intence questions. Can you blame me though? He asked me to come visit him in Florida which I cheerfully agreed to do (I live in Toronto), but both our budgets are tight.
He hinted that if things work out for us, he might move to Canada. That got me thinking “he’s serious!” so I baraged him with questions. Poor guy, he said “This is too much for me and I dont want to talk about it anymore”.
But he is a flirty guy so How do I match someone like his’ flirtyness. How do I not turn him off with grave practicality and directness? I’ve never played games. maybe I should learn?

Of course i wasnt to learn how to flirt. I want to be seductive and attractive….. who doesn’t?