Impatience: yes, I unfortunately can be. I try to be patient, I am working on that. I know I can be very anxious at times. I am trying to work on this. Truthfully, I tend to notice more impatience and anxiety in myself than I do in others.
Annoyance: Everyone can be annoying, and I guess that would include myself. I can think of annoying things I do, or have done, but in general, I really don’t think I’m that annoying of a person.
Judgementalism: This one is rather misleading. I mean, really I see people saying they want to be “non-judgemental”, And to me being non-judgemental, means being inactive. I mean let’s examine the concept truthfully, shall we? If a person says, “I was non-judgemental today”. Then that means what exactly? They layed around and vegged out all day? I mean if a person says they were “non-judgemental”, then didn’t they just make a judgement about how they are? Isn’t not wanting to be judgemental, making a judgement, and therefore being judgemental? “I was not judgemental all day!”, oh, really!, well then name one thing you did that didn’t require making a judgement.
Do you think you’re not judgemental? See, you did it again! You made a judgement, you were judgemental.
And you’ve been judging every damn word I’ve typed in this post, and you’re lying through your teeth if you say you haven’t, so there!!!!!
So, why don’t we all just say, “I want to not be so harsh in my judgements”, and “I want to be less prejudice”. Because, really human nature is such that being judgemental, and being prejudice are charachteristics that everybody shares.
I’m reminded of an exhibit I heard about dealing with prejudice, where there were two doors, one to enter if you are prejudice, and another if you aren’t. But the “non-prejudice door” was locked, and no one could enter it. Why? because we are all prejudice!
And even wanting to be less harsh in our judgements, is making a judgement. Now, giving people the benefit of the doubt is fine sometimes. But gut feelings and intuitions should be listened to.
Sometimes being judgemental, even if done so negatively, can serve as a defense mechanism and/or as a means of survival. So there are times when negative judgements really aren’t that bad of a thing. Maybe only seldom, but still enough to sometimes be true.
How am I like this?: I’ve seen pieces of myself in the people I’ve been critical of more so at this point in my life, then I ever have before. But that’s good, it means I’m learning, it means I’m growing, it means I’m maturing. It means I’m a multi-faceted versatile person. So, see I’m being judgemental! But I’m judging myself in a positive way. :-) “How am I like this”, has almost become automatic for me as of late, if I don’t verbalize it, I at least think it.
So, I’m going to do what I set out to do with this, type this up, and mark it as done. Hey, I made another judgement!, how about that!