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How to forgive myself
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 "Turns out I am a pretty great person after all... "
How I did it: Time... and the help of good friends. I allowed myself to GRIEVE over the things I had lost and the mistakes I had made, and I cut out people in my life that were really REALLY just reinforcing my self-hate. When I replaced the people who were purposely TRYING to keep me down, and realized that the people who were helping me up were right and that I hadn't done ANYTHING that couldn't be forgiven, I just forgave myself and took the time to LEARN from the mistakes instead of beat myself up over them.
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I have a further confounding factor…
Breaking this down into pieces…I am dependent on others to validate my worth as I admittedly have little esteem. It’s not like I walk around spewing that forth for all to hear. If you met me at work you wouldn’t know it. I do a masterful job hiding behind my suits and pretending I am pristine marble…cold…until you get to know me.
The fact is, I have a huge hurdle to get past and I have not been able to get out of my own way. I don’t think I am worth forgiving. I recognize it is a self fulfilling prophecy when I say I am not worth it, then I believe I am not worth it, then I act like I am not worth it, then I prove I am not worth it to myself. And on and on and so forth.
I am getting better at breaking the cycle. Not everyday is crap. Admittedly I have no perspective on myself. I cannot see the good and if I did, I wouldn’t admit it, and if I did I wouldn’t give it credit.
Mental note to self…is there a goal in there somewhere I should be working on?...What would it be anyway…how not to crap on yourself? Ick that’s horrible? No support on that…
In my case finding forgiveness for others might actually be easier…assuming I can get over the fear of being hurt again.
I would give everything I have for anyone I know 10 times over and keep on giving, but when it comes to myself I just can’t seem to mustard up.
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I fell in love with someone and instead of being honest about it, I lied to myself, and to him, because I felt ashamed. I don’t know why I was ashamed, but I was. Now I’m even more ashamed for lying to this person.
I want to forgive myself for loving someone. Love is beautiful, so why did I hide it? I don’t know. I wish I’d never lied. I wish I’d been honest before I became so attached. Before love had really destroyed me.
It’s not who I am. It’s not who I want to be.
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I’ve made a lot of mistakes. I’ve humiliated myself, and others, I’ve hurt many people, I’ve let a lot of people down. I’ve lied, cheated, deceived people into thinking I was good. I’ve been fake, and I’ve used people to get what I want. I want to be a better person, I need to forgive myself for my past mistakes.
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To forgive others is to stop giving others power by continuing to be angry at them for past grievances. Harboring resentment continues the incident as if it had never past.
How does this translate to forgiving myself? Does this translate?
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Ever since I was 13 I have had really low self-esteem. I started cutting myself in 7th grade, and in 8th grade I was bulimic. Looking at me now you would never think that I was bulimic, because in previous posts I want to loose weight. Anyways, I lost all of my friends because of stupidity. I gained on friend who actually helped turn my life around. I ended up liking him and he ended up lying to me. I fell in love for the frist time to a complete asshole who never had the balls to tell me he didnt like me. Everytime I would get my hopes up he would tear them down which made me feel worthless. I still feel like Im worthless and no one will ever love me.
Looking at all of the mistakes I’ve made…The backstabbing, the stealing, the smoking, the drinking, the critisizing, the fuck up, the falling in love with a lie, everything. I cant stand that I let myself get as fucked up as I am.
Dont get me wrong, I love getting high. (two other things on my list=D) But I have gotten emotional by being high because im so paranoid. I have gotten emotional while drinking because I have no other way of letting it escape.
I NEED to forgive myself, so I can love myself.
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One thing I really need to do is forgive myself.
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