not be afraid to speak up when i have an answer/idea/opinion

I feel like I’m doing this 95% of the time.

Why suffer in silence?

I went to get a free makeover on Saturday and where I usually say “yeah it looks great” to everything; I actually spoke up and said when I didn’t like things. Like when she put the lip gross on I spoke up and said that I preferred lipstick to the gloss and she got me some of that to try and now its gone on my birthday list because I really liked it. It also gave us things t talk about – where it’s usually all awkward silences and phatic conversations the make up artist and I were actually having a half decent chat in the given situation.

“there is no such thing as a stupid question. the stupidest question is the one that isn’t asked”

Yep, this is going better than ever – I had a marvellous day on Thursday – ignored the niggling fear that my ideas were possibly daft (even though I really felt they were worth considering and had done the background work) and spoke up. Good for me! In a way this has freed up my thinking, I am not being so hard on myself and critical of my ideas and have more faith in speaking up when it counts.

‘One man who asks a question is a fool for five minutes; one who does not ask a question remains a fool forever.’

This goal has been going quite well I think. I’ve started voicing my opinion more regularly over little things and I’ve noticed that the world doesn’t stop when I say something more radical than usual. In fact quite the opposite – I have had some great conversations as a result and feel better for having expressed myself.

Think that this is an on-going goal – but so far, so good!

i say things i don’t mean. and i sound really mean. sometimes having an opinion means putting yourself out there and sounding reeaaally stupid. for me anyway.

but i’m glad to have found my voice. at least now i know that there are some things that i will not stand for. and that i feel strong enough about them to speak up and speak out.

baby steps. :)

I try and try but I still freeze at times and the reason why I freeze is because I’m kinda afraid, so I’m just continue trying to be myself and speak my mind more often.
It’s an everyday job I guess.

I have got loads of confidence its just when I was a little kid I got bullied for not speaking up and its ironic that Im afraid of speaking up when the reason I got trashed by some one else was beacuse I was a shy girl who couldnt voice her views – the most I could do when I was a kid was nod or shrug. Im not like that now but I dont feel secure in a big group saying what I think with people like the person she was.
It feels like its deeprooted, I can only talk to others with confidence when they are showing an intrest in me or if they talk first! I hate public speaking, I gabble and I get really touchy when I get called a shy kid beacuse inside I feel so confident but I just dont know how to show it.
Please help!

I haven’t been afraid for a little while now, and so I’m taking it off my list. I will rememeber to do this I’m not done with this, but I have done it.(I’m going to keep doing it.)