get into a relationship

How I did it:

• I fell in love with a girl, Jane, who is 4 years older than me
• I got to know her, I already knew her brother, started talking and eventually hanging out with her
• I got confident around her, started making her laugh and started meeting up much more
• She started hugging me and we grew closer
• I asked her on a date and she accepted
• The date was successful and she wanted to kiss, we kissed and our love grew
• I asked her out and she accepted, we began a relationship
• We started kissing a lot and slept together
• The love soared and we are now saving up to buy our own place

Lessons & tips:

• Simply pluck up the courage and ask
• Act yourself and play it cool, don't act cocky or over confident
• At the start of the relationship be cautious and don't over do it
• Don't rush into things, take it as it comes
• Don't mention sleeping together until she is ready
• Make her laugh and make her feel safe around you
• Be as cool as a cucumber, don't worry and be patient
• Don't push her, let her make her own decisions
• Don't lie to her about yourself and be yourself
• Better to be truthful then you won't be caught out
• Don't smoke around her if she is a none smoker, find out whether she smokes before doing so yourself, if she does smoke always offer her one
• Don't let her pay for anything, treat her to a drink or take her out for a meal
• Don't be silly or stupid
• Don't show off
• Don't do too much talking, but be there to listen to what she has to say
• Always smile
• Only move things forward if you think she's ready
• Don't swear in front of her
• Always make sure you're clean and smelling nice
• Don't shout around her

Resources:

• Advice off a few friends
• Confidence
• Getting to know her first
• Feeling confident around her

Oct 19, 2008, 12:11PM PDT | 1 comment