be a better big sister

I love my sister to pieces, honestly, but I’ve been so wrapped up in my own world lately I’ve forgotten to be there for her too.

We’ve never been extremely close but we’ve always stuck by each other and been there when needed. But lately she’s started to retreat into her shell, exactly like I did when I was her age. I suspect that she may be getting teased at school and I want her to know that I’ll always be there for her to talk to. Because there’s such a big age gap between us it’s not really feasible for me to talk to her about my problems but I’m hoping that she’ll feel comfortable enough to come to me about hers.

I’m worried about how she’s feeling about our parent’s recent split aswell and I think we need to have a talk so she understands exactly what’s happening and doesn’t misplace the blame or have false hopes.

I haven’t been the best sister in the past, I can be a right cow to her at times, to put it politely, but I really hope I can make amends and take the chance to be the sister she needs.

Bought them chocolate the last couple of nights on my way home from work. It’s nice to know that I can- for 5 seconds- still consider them in the way I live my life :). They appreciate chocolate!

Yesterday my littlest sister had to decide what to be for a fancy dress day at school. She couldn’t come up with any decent ideas and she had, as usual, left it to the last minute. My mum shouted at her for being disorganised and she ended up crying. I went in and sat with her and bounced ideas off of her. I pulled up pictures of movie stars and stuff from films off of the internet. Lots of them she hadn’t even heard of. I suggested all sorts of silly things but she’s at that age where image is EVERYTHING and she wasn’t willing to do what any average jo would do and grab a bed sheet and be a ghost. Sooooo we went through her wardrobe and then eventually mine (much to Ben’s annoyance- he was waiting for me to go watch a film)... and I put a choice little outfit together for her including accessories. She went as a cast member out of Fame. She looked very sweet and my mum ironed the fame logo onto the back of her T-shirt for her. Bless. She looked gorgeous and I made sure I told her so!!! Young girls always need to be reassured that they are doing ok and that they look ok. It helps to build self esteem & a good body image. Not that she needs help with that. She’s now a well rounded little teenager, with a host of friends and male admirers. She’s doing well at school and she’s always out walking. I don’t do much with her- but when it comes to clothes and fashion she’ll always come to me and that’s kinda reassuring!!!!

I was beginning to wonder why all my clean clothes seem lived in when they haven’t been touched. Today I logged into facebook to discover my sister has been wearing them out on weekends. There are photos of her in all different outfits. One of my favourite dresses has helped her to roll down a hill. And I wondered why it smelled a bit funny when I picked it from the floor inside my wardrobe and how it had ended up under a pile of shoes. Now I know.

Apparently I’m a better sister than I thought. I haven’t reacted. I put up on her wall ‘Nice dress. I’ve got one like that ;)’. HAHA. Time was I’d have plotted to call in on her and shout but hey- at least she likes my taste :P.

I’ve got my brother and sister while my parents are away next week. I suppose I best be nice in case all hell breaks loose. Arghh.

My little brother and i get a long sometimes. He’s a really rad kid and has a good head on his shoulders. but eversince i moved in with my boyfriend i see less and less of him, yesterday my mom took us to the holocaust museum and then swimming. I actualy got the chance to hang out with all 3 of my brothers and it was good. i especially liked spending time with my little bro. maybe i should call him more often or take him out for a movie or something broher sister like

Though it’s quite fun. I don’t want the summer holidays to end.

I bought them sweets today and went with them to get injections at the doctors.

Tonight my brother and I are going to play Sega. Anyone who disputes that Sega Master System/ Mega drives are the best games platform… well I cannot look at you. Sega ROCKS. He does not agree. I will convert him!

I cooked them tea yesterday and made them lunch today.

I think I quite like looking after them! It’s nice to worry about other people!!! (Even if they are nearly old enough to look after themselves). My brother enjoys it more than most- he even convinced me to tie his shoelaces for him. Haha.

I took my little brother and sister to see the new Harry Potter film today. The film left a lot to be desired BUT they had fun and I haven’t spent proper quality time with them both for a very long time.

I must begin to do this more often!

I’m taking my little sister out tomorrow for a walk and a cup of tea… some one to one time.

She’s talking to me again. She started laughing at something I said to someone else and then called me a moose and poked me.

All is well again. Haha.

Well I bought them a load of stuff… but you can’t buy love… unless of course it’s silence. It appears silence or the appearance of it can buy peace.

My siblings are now teenagers. My sister was home alone with boys in the house recently and because I found out about it I found myself on the other end of a teen strop. I haven’t told our parents- if they found out she’d be grounded for life. I guess she thinks I’m going to tell them… unlikely. I phoned my parents because I’d lost my keys and wanted to pop home but they weren’t in- she was. She now keeps swearing at me and wont even look me in the eye. She also told Ben to tell me I’m a lot of really nasty things. I’m sure he appreciated it. I was walking past on the street and got a two finger salute to which I responded ‘grow up’ and she then sent me an email saying ‘I hate you and I’m not talking to you anymore.’ She ended it in more swear words. I forgot how hostile teenagers could be. She’s only just getting to that stage but it’s already driving me nuts. I have no idea how to be a ‘better’ sister to that? I’ve ignored her and not risen to her. I’ve tried emailing her back with ‘that’s fine’ but she then sent another torrent of abuse. It’s almost impossible to be a grown up when faced with a teenager. It’s scary. Thank goodness I don’t have kids of my own.