stop hating

Once upon a time,there were 3 girls and 1 by i hated guts.Not for minor reasons such as:”ooohhh,she went out and she didn’t ivite me” but for some serious shit.
I didn’t wake up one day and felt i suddenly love them,no.But the “hatred” i felt for them after months of internal fight with myself came to an end or close to an end anyways.
Realizing how small beings they are to do and say crap to and for me,helped me find peace of mind.
Hating and frustration is very time consuming,so i thought,do i really want to spend my entire life hating them and feeling sick cause of them?Would i give them the pleasure of watching me being down?NO
I can’t say i forgive them,but more of erased them from my memory and keep living,keep going on.
From now on,i’m gonna be very picky with the people that surround me and my friendships,i shall choose more wisely my friends and relationships.
I don’t believe that stop hating is something we can achieve whenever we want,it’s more of a subconscious fight with our feelings and as they say time heals everything.We cannot tell ourselves stop hating or don’t hate them,it’s just silly and useless.
Time knows best.And once we have realized how bad for our mental health and how much time consuming hating and frustration is,it’s the first step to find our way out from this vicious circle.And don’t expect you will stop hating in the next few days,it takes time and pain.But now that you and i know how to fight that black little creature that plays with our minds,we’ll be more careful and beat it even faster.
Good luck to you all and don’t waste your time hating people,your job,yourselves.Change as quickly as possible everything that gets on your nerves!;)

I think this has definitely calmed down. The worst hating happened in my head. The things that would run around my mind were shocking. But it has calmed down a lot, and I’m happy about that! Now it just comes when someone annoys me.

I moved to Florida to give my husband’s family a chance to know our children and so his cousins children and ours can grow up together. But since they lived in Florida and us in California when we got married, I met them like once. So I was in for a big surprise..they are totally crazy Jerry Springer people. Drama all the time. Take it my husband is an only child so his cousins are like his brothers and sisters. But they just blew my mind. So I have been in Florida for like 2 years and I’m ready to pack my stuff and go. Don’t let anyone fool you into believing that Northern Florida is anything like california..Northern Florida has no culture..it’s basically what the South used to be way way back in the days. But what can I do..sell my house and start all over. My husband has a great job here and the schools are great. But California..I sure do miss it. I feel like such an outsider here..people don’t even know what I am or who I am. Everything is so far away and it’s just not my kind of place. I’m surprised I lasted here so long. I don’t know if I should just really give it a chance or pack my stuff and go. I met some people here but we have nothing in common besides we like to have fun..dont’ even share similar or close to anything in our backgrounds. It’s just totally a 180 from california..I love that california is very multi-cultural..there’s people from all over the world there. And here well it’s like an episode out of Jerry Springer and Mayberry. Miserable in Florida

so I’m really agrivated at myself. There was this girl that works at the nursery at my church. A little bit irrisponsible, a little bit egotistic, both factors contributing to me claiming to “not be able to stand” her a.k.a “I hate her.” First of all, it’s immature of me, considering that she’s a good 4 years younger than I am, but her constant “Oh my gosh, it looks like this little girl is attached to me and likes me better than everyone else.” and “I know everything about taking care of children” really began to bug me. What bugs me more is that 4 days ago, I found out that she and her sister had been adopted a few years ago, and that before then they were living alone on the streets of chicago. Finding this out made me stop hating her, but I shouldn’t have hated her inthe first place. She’s still a kid, and I should have had been level-headed enough to not let her get to me; besides, it’s not like she’s a bad person either. I just need to stop being so damn persumptous.

I made a list of all of my bad qualities, stipped of my persona, stipped of my beliefs, stipped of my moralities and false intentions; I made a list of all the things I never wanted to admit to myself, all of the less than moral caprices that goad at my concious and sway me to do the things I do, and when I looked at the list, every single on of my bad qualities were qualities that I hated about other people, and hate about society in general. What can I say; what we most hate can be found within us. So, I think now that I’ve realized them, I can more easily forgive them, and change them. The less I hate the world around me, the more I am at peace with myself, verdad? I’m not saying that I can’t dislike things, or disagree with things, because I still have beliefs, I still have a personality, and I still wont think some things are right, but I think I’ll be more accepting of differences, contradictions and ambiguities. It’ll take some work, but I think I’m getting there.

hate is a stupid, pathetic paralyzing emotion that is based off of the projection of our own shortcomings. Hate is rediculous, self-centered, and unproductive, and i have better things to waste my time with.

Why waist your time on hating someone? Hate takes alot more passion and emotion than love or any other human emotion that i know of, so why don’t we all forget about the people that we “Hate” and convert all the passion that we have in our own little world and reflect it back into our life to the people closest to us.let the other people rot in their own little insignificant hole of hell and go on with YOUR life.

It is probably impossible to end all the injustice around the world, but if I was to stop hating, the world would be one step closer. If I were to stop hating, maybe I would be able to affect my friends to stop hating, and they would affect their friends and so on and so forth. In the long run it’d be a huge step for the world.

I don’t think I would hate so much if people didn’t treat me like crap and say crap. I try, but they make it worse. And this is where one should stop caring when other people think of them. Easier said than done. But I’ll try!