learn when to shut up

I am terrible i say horrible things to people and need to learn how to shut my mouth and stop getting into arguements and sometimes even lil fights. This will be hard because i never think before i say things and i always seem to hurt peoples feelings.

i want to be more calm
i want no bar fights (over me/started by me)or finished by me for that matter
i dont want to hurt anyones feelings

respect for other people’s opinions, for their suggestions, for their experiences, for their points of view. sometimes it’s respect for who they are: someone whose ideas may be full of baloney, but you respect him or her as a person, so you shut up and listen. sometimes, though, it’s more about respect for yourself: you know it does no good to argue with a fool, or you know that if you tell your boss she’s a senile neurotic you’ll be out on your butt, or you value your friendship with someone more than you value arguing over something inconsequential—in each case you are respecting your own core priorities above the immediate gratification, however transitory, of sounding off.

i’m trying hard to work on that last category!

i just cant do it