be better at small talk

I’m so horrible and awkward when it comes to small talk. When people pass by and say “Hey, what’s up?” I never have any idea what to say… Boo.

Im way too quiet and its ruining my life because I dont even know what to say to people that Ive known for years! Help me please

I have difficulty with chatting. I like to discuss things and have deeper conversations than say: “hey, how you doing?”, “what’s going on?”, etc. I like to have meaningful conversations.

It is hard for me to have a casual conversation with somebody. I want information, I want to discuss something. I am trying to lighten up and be more casual.

i feel like i’m a friendly person, but i’m not good at approaching a total stranger and starting small talk. i don’t know how to initiate it. my thinking is that it takes confidence and not being afraid of rejection. any thoughts? has anyone else been bad at this at one time, but is now a pro? :)

at small talk. Not with everyone but with most people. It’s always like, they’ll say something and I won’t have anything to say back. Mostly because I don’t care…but I don’t want them knowing that! I guess it’s just really hard for me to pretend like I care.

I think the key to this is to relate it to the person. If I am going to ask about the weather ask if they had trouble getting in the office due to the bad weather.

i interview people as part of my job and i think it’s really helped my conversation skills! i find myself asking more questions (i tend to be a talker, so this is GREAT progress) – and more interesting questions, as well. i feel as though i’m better at chitchatting with people i barely know now…. wooo wooo.

We were at our friends’ house tonight and I found myself answering broad questions with single examples or organizing my thoughts like a 5th grader. Now that I communicate mostly via e-mail and blogging, I’m doing a lot less speaking. I think small talk demands a bit of practice, daily. I mean, I’m 35 and I still sound like a Senior in High School… totally!! ;)

I’d probably connect with more people if I were better at small talk. Right now, I’m kind of limited to the folks who are willing to dig deeper and get me talking about something in depth.

I’m crap at small talk! Unfortunately, it seems to be a vital skill in today’s world. I can hardly make small talk with my friends. Once I’m better at small talk, maybe other things will come easier as well.