be less negative

weigh you and your soul down. Its very tiring to feel and hear…

I found each day I start off with being grateful, I have a more positive attitude and day. I write down at least 10 things I’m grateful for each day. The number one thing I am grateful for everyday is that my parents are in great health. Last year at this time my dad was in the hospital with a heart condition. Not only is he better but he is going to the gym every day and he was able to walk me down the aisle on September 2, 2007. I honestly thought I was going to loose him. I’m done complaining. I’m done mopping around and being depressed. Today I am so grateful that God has given my dad another chance. I’m also grateful that I am able to work for my family company.

What a wonderful day! :)

“Be less negative” v. “Be more positive”?

I think the first step is clear.

One of the easiest ways I’ve found to be less negative is to hold my tongue. It’s SO HARD, it really is, but it’s also how I’ve been able to excise a decent amount of my negativity. If you stop speaking it, that doesn’t necessarily mean that you stop thinking it, but it does help you reconsider whether what you’re thinking is at all helpful or not. Often, I’ve found it to be really unhelpful to the conversation and, more recently, just plain unhealthy.

I find a project and think that it will take me too long to do it, so I put it off. -> By putting it off, my chances of completing it with any sort of quality diminish exponentially. -> As the time depletes, so does my motivation to complete it. -> More time passes, alongside my motivation and my hope. -> A threshold is reached where things must be started. -> I am stressed throughout the whole process of finishing said task. -> In the end, a crap product is produced, which lowers my self-esteem and makes me feel negative.

Brain, I’d like to introduce you to someone, you might have heard of them, PATTERN RECOGNITION? Thought you two might work wonders together. (Ugh.)

I have Soooo done this. Even my wife and daughter have commented on “how much more positive I am now”. For every negative thought I force myself to have two positive thoughts.

The bright side looks so much better than the dark side!

I’ve definitely started thinking more positively. It’s not that I don’t think negative things ever, but I remind myself that those aren’t needed and don’t let them resonate with me.

Happy happy day.

I now keep a daily log of….
1. Negative Thoughts
2. Negative Comments.

This forces me to consciously analyze my thoughts and words. The process is working! I am making (and thinking) less negative comments! The best side benefit…. I’m a happier person!

I hate being negative and I will stop doing it. Right now I am trying to consciously think about everything before it comes out of my mouth. If the thought is negative, I force myself to say something positive instead. Pretty damn hard, but I’m doing it!

I’ve been a lot happier since I’ve been reminding myself about eliminating negativity. Everytime I think something negative and find myself ready to say it, I bite my tongue and diffuse it. When you choose not to focus on the negative it just brightens your day…. even if it’s a sweltering NYC day and you just narrowly escaped getting hit by a cab while crossing the street. lol