be less negative

recently my husband and I and (our 4 stepsons and the ex-wife) have been trying to change our who has who schedule, my husband and I just got married about 3 months ago and we started this process way be fore the wedding, not planning to do anything like this during the wedding year, but it happens… so now we’ve gotten everything still settled, but having to deal with her during the past few months has gotten me so negative toward her, that now that everything’s currently settled, I still speak very negatively about her to my hubby and he pointed out that it’s not very helpful. So I’d like to work on being or sounding less negative when she comes up as a topic. phew… i think i can do it…..

Like that’s ever going to happen!

I’m not sure what is wrong with me. Maybe I am clinically depressed. Everything is going so well, but I’m still sad. Something isn’t right. Do I just go to my General Practice doctor? Or do I have to go to a shrink?

I used to be such an optimist. I used to drive my friends to distraction trying to get them to look on the brighter side of things. In the passed year that has slowly changed. I have no concrete idea how I got here and who this negative person is.
It is having an effect on my marriage…that will never do.

Will squelch the neggies and start to look on the brighter side of shite!!!

weigh you and your soul down. Its very tiring to feel and hear…

I found each day I start off with being grateful, I have a more positive attitude and day. I write down at least 10 things I’m grateful for each day. The number one thing I am grateful for everyday is that my parents are in great health. Last year at this time my dad was in the hospital with a heart condition. Not only is he better but he is going to the gym every day and he was able to walk me down the aisle on September 2, 2007. I honestly thought I was going to loose him. I’m done complaining. I’m done mopping around and being depressed. Today I am so grateful that God has given my dad another chance. I’m also grateful that I am able to work for my family company.

What a wonderful day! :)

“Be less negative” v. “Be more positive”?

I think the first step is clear.

One of the easiest ways I’ve found to be less negative is to hold my tongue. It’s SO HARD, it really is, but it’s also how I’ve been able to excise a decent amount of my negativity. If you stop speaking it, that doesn’t necessarily mean that you stop thinking it, but it does help you reconsider whether what you’re thinking is at all helpful or not. Often, I’ve found it to be really unhelpful to the conversation and, more recently, just plain unhealthy.

I find a project and think that it will take me too long to do it, so I put it off. -> By putting it off, my chances of completing it with any sort of quality diminish exponentially. -> As the time depletes, so does my motivation to complete it. -> More time passes, alongside my motivation and my hope. -> A threshold is reached where things must be started. -> I am stressed throughout the whole process of finishing said task. -> In the end, a crap product is produced, which lowers my self-esteem and makes me feel negative.

Brain, I’d like to introduce you to someone, you might have heard of them, PATTERN RECOGNITION? Thought you two might work wonders together. (Ugh.)

I have Soooo done this. Even my wife and daughter have commented on “how much more positive I am now”. For every negative thought I force myself to have two positive thoughts.

The bright side looks so much better than the dark side!