get along with my family

hope to mend fences with my sister.

Today, I wanted to try stargazing for the first time. I hate the dark mind you, and being alone outside is worse. I asked my brother and mom, but they were being butt’s and weren’t interested. My dad agreed to it, and we spend like 20 minutes bonding together. He showed me the big dipper and tried to show my Polaris and Scorpius, but the trees were in our way. But it was the best part of my day today.

My sister made my life miserable all the time we lived together. She was “the pretty girl” in the family” and that gave her a lot of privilege and made her feel entitled to treat everyone like subordinates, especially me, the inadequate, odd looking younger sister.
When we were in school, she did not even talk to me. She was the popular girl with the boys and even the teachers liked her. She always had a popular best friend to hang out with.
Her vanity caught up with her and even though she had many boyfriends, she married at 33 and divorced one year later. She now gained weight and became insecure.
She is 36 now. She is always in debt because she always had to buy expensive things that she could not afford.
She came on vacation last year and she was bossing me around all the time. We argued, we still don’t get along. She went crazy shopping here and she is still trying to pay.

The point is that I asked her to move in with me because I feel that I should help her because she is my sister and I think she is stuck in her job and her life there. Besides, I am tired of living by myself in a foreign country for four years. She is lots of fun and adventurous and my son loves that. I also feel that she could do great things in here financially and it would be easier for both of us.

When we were in our 20’s we bought a condo together. It was a nightmare in a way because she was always late with her payments.
Two things worry me the most: having to deal with someone who thinks of me as her inferior and who loves to live beyond her means.

I just think that it is my moral obligation to help her out and I also think it would be a good thing to have family around.

I already paid for her plane ticket and made some repairs to my car so that she can use it. I will have to buy a new car for me.

I will be careful to track expenses so that she can repay me. She has a problem remembering her debts.

03/03/09 I chatted on msn with my sis last night. She really pissed me off because she is asking me if I have any job interviews for her yet! she is not even here and she is already treating my like I am her employee or something. I have already explained to her that to get a job she needs to get her ass here first! she is not realistic. She said she is going to pay all her debts in Mexico before she gets here. There is not such a thing as her paying her debts! she has lived in debt since she was 20!
I am going to get some money soon and that worries me because I know that she will try to borrow money that she never pays back.
I am very willing to help her establish herself here but I am not her f. agent to go and find her a job. She has to do that!
I am going to send her an e-mail reminding her to be realistic and that I can only do so much for her! :( :(

I also chatted with my mother who complained about her high-blood pressure and threw a pity party like she always does. How come she does not excercise at all or eat better? or take her medication without pretending to be the victim all the time?
I sent her money last month and I dont mind doing that but at some point she has to take care of herself!

I love my family but I can’t stand them at all! :(

i should give this goal up…its not going to happen. I hate myself to much to be able to try and love somebody else. I’m the black sheep in my family and i have so much issues with myself…I take the anger out I have for myself at my family. So im just as much at fault as they are.

damn

by the looks of it no one comes on this forum very much – but i just need to get this out there

my parents have been fighting for as long as i can remember - constantly throughout my childhood. im 16 now and just a few months ago i refused to let my mom throw my dad out of the house. i guess i ve kinda changed since then. im never emotional any more - even less so than my older sister who is usually the one to ust tell everyone to fuck off and mind their own business. but now shes crying to my dad about what a bitch ive been the past months to her and i hear every word theyre saying. i treat her the same way she treats me. i just dont have the energy anymore to be the better person.

i feel disconnected from my friends- all of them are in arguments and im grounded for the rest of the week for absolutely no reason – well my mom and dad got in a huge fight this weekend for letting me and my older sister go out friday night when we were supposedly grounded. its insignificant stuff they fight about and i ve just stopped caring.

sure, if my mom tries to throw my dad out again i’ll stop her but in between i just dont care anymore.

my OLDER sister (18) is now telling my dad how inconsiderate it was of my to stick my fork in a cake without cutting myself a slice. ITS A FUCKING CAKE. my family just doesnt understand that we get along accept for the small, tiny, minute, INSIGNIFICANT details that tear us apart.

im tired of trying. i dont even sleep in my own room anymore because i feel so confined. i sleep downstairs on the living room couch but now i cant go to bed cause thats where my sister and dad are arguing.

i know no one is probably going to read this but i just needed to put it out there…

It’s silly that I don’t get along with my family and we rarely communicate. It’s not that hard to just be nicer!

i move out. and me and my brother have been hanging out.

i get along with them every now and then but they annoy the hell out of me and are the cause of like…60% of any of my stress

we just have a really fucked up relationship and i want us to get along more