give more compliments

The hard part for me isn’t finding the compliment, but delivering it. I easily see the good in people, but I usually blush bright red when I’m telling them the compliment. Especially with boys, even if I don’t like them in that way at all.

I gave a compliment to a friend today and didn’t get all red. I’m just trying to get to the point where I can compliment my boyfriend without blushing so hard!

but it seems weird to note each compliment I give anyone.

I’ll keep it on my list, though, so I’ll be reminded of it whenever I check in.

I have been doing this lately, but haven’t been noting each incident. They seem minor & small, even though doing this can become a good habit or way of viewing other people.

just adding an extra ‘thank you’ to let someone know you really mean it can work like a compliment. Not for like, “hey, would you hand me that pencil?” “thanks.” But for things that required extra thought or effort – those things do deserve more than a monotone ‘oh, thanks…’

I’ve been noticing that I notice good things about people, but all too often don’t let the thought come out my mouth. It wouldn’t be difficult to speak it when I think it, & I don’t know why I don’t. So I’ll try to say it out loud to the person more often when I notice something good about them.

I’m not out to brown-nose or flatter, or even give that impression.

I thought of this the other day at a city bus stop. A woman walked by with a really cool jacket on. Really cool. I’d never seen one like it before. Before I could stop myself, I blurted out, “Cool jacket!!!” She glanced over & laughed & said thanks, then went on her way. She could probably tell I blurted it out unintentionally, which might have made it believable rather than contrived.

when I noticed how Nienke had the most amazing singing voice, her voice is really strong, but warm and lovely at the same time. I remember thinking, wow! I should tell her how much I love her voice, but then I forgot :(

I know how much compliments can really brighten my day. I really need compliments every now and then, and I was thinking.. when I think someone is gorgeous or has a great voice, or does something really good, or whatever, I should just come up to them and tell them!

I have done horribly with this goal so I am going to change things up a bit in an effort to make this part of my routine. I am adding this onto my daily 5 of 15 goal.

Sometimes I feel like being generous with compliments might put me in a vulnerable position. You know how people who are too gushy are sometimes a bit off-putting? It’s pretty obvious, though, that you’re only as vulnerable as you let yourself be. If you give compliments hoping for something in return, if you invest too much in the giving of compliments, then you might feel rejected if that gesture isn’t returned. But if you give for the joy of giving and don’t invest too much in it emotionally, then I guess that’s pretty terrific for everyone, isn’t it?!

I’m still hesitant to compliment total strangers but I do make an effort to compliment someone aloud when I think it to myself. Why keep it to myself? I know it’s nice to hear and why not brighten someone’s day? :)

Trying to compliment more people (always genuinely, though, I despise people who fake being nice so I would never fake a compliment).

It’s nice to see someone truly smile, especially when quite unexpected from a perfectly quiet stranger or classmate.