My husband is a great guy but his personality is really assertive. He’s a master at getting his way. He learned it through observing his dad and direct instruction and his mom is the poster child of subservance. My dad was never assetive but my mom let his wishes reguardles of everyone elses needs. He didn’t require it my mom just didn’t have the strength to assert her own needs and wants.
I hate that in this way I take after my mom! Even when I express my wishes ect things still don’t change. It’s not my husbands fault that I’m just so pathetic & weak, it is all mine! I just don’t know how to change. I’ve even tried faking it but still I fail. How do you become more assertive and effective at expressing your needs and getting what you want in life?
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i have an issue with putting other people before me, and because of it i have nothing left for myself. im tired of always being sad and depressed, i don’t have peace of mind.. i don’t wanna be mean but i can’t help everybody and i’m beginning to understand that….. it just hurts cause im so used to putting myself on the back burner, i don’t even know what i like and want in my own life.
im afraid that if i dont become a stronger person that my insecurity and all that will break up my 5 month relationship…..i want to change….and stop being a human doormat…but i just dont know how…...
any help…suggestions…whatever would be appreciated
I don’t know if per-say I need to become a stronger person, I need to become one again. To me I think being a strong person is being successful, independent, and not afraid to be alone (without a partner.) It is knowing yourself and loving every little bit about it. It is forgiving yourself for what you no longer have control over and controlling yourself from making the same mistake again. It is moving forward even though something or someone may be holding you back. There are so many different elements to being a stronger person. I think that I am making progress towards that goal, but I still have a long way to go.
Okay…well I dont know really where to begin. My ex boyfriend of 5 years just recently left me for another girl. I’ve never felt what it’s like to be heart broken..until now. It’s such an awful feeling. I’ve always thought I was the type of person that could get through anything, but i can’t get through this. It was mostly my fault he left me. I’d say about 85 percent my fault.
All I do now is think about him. He didnt deserve any of the things I did to him. He was and still is a great guy. I just took everything for granted. Me and him have two totally different outlooks on things. Like what he thought and saw as being so bad, I saw as just the opposite. But I see things through his eyes now. And I wish I could take it all back.
So my first step in life is to not only become a stronger person…but also become a better person.
I am now living a life of regrets and each day it is eating at me. I can’t go on like this. So Im just going to hold my head up high and take it one day at a time. I know i can get through this.
