A very helpful link on how to
4 weeks ago
How to divorce my mother
It made me
free 
"When you truly stop caring is when you can be free"
How I did it: Not sure I could have done it without the years of therapy before.
The short story is that I took a look at the situation and found out that I had really tried everything, that she had really improved, and that I still don't care to be best friends with mum or anything. In deciding to divorce, I found that I could stop being upset, disappointed, and unduly moved by what she does or doesn't do or how or how much. It's been worth it.
Lessons & tips: Try growing up outside the mother-kid relationship, with a counselor: an actual mature person, a grandparent, a religious leader, a spouse, a psychologist...
Try all you can to forgive and to repair some damage.
If the emotions are still to much after you really have exhausted all you know, then try the divorce. This means that you stop being angry. It may help.
Resources: Talking to friends. Having a shrink. Living away from home and being independent.
Reading a book (I borrowed it from my mother, funny enough) called The DNA of Relationships.
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It's sort of a re-divorce actually
4 weeks ago
When I was a child (and admittedly, she was a child too, aged eighteen years older than I, with low maturity) I decided she sucked. Thank God for boarding school, and being far far far away.
(insert) years of therapy…so valuable is therapy.
We reconciled recently because I moved home for a few months. It feels nice not to hate your mother.
Having made the change, I would rather enjoy easy relationships than work on improving this one. It is so much work that is likely not worth it.
