become more independent

This is coming together:

Just got a job, graduated high school, and am working on getting my license and a car.

Then hopefully, I’ll have my own money and my own way to get places and I won’t be relying on everyone else as much. As for being so dependent on Scott, hopefully I can start to find myself after all the other stuff falls into place.

This is possibly the biggest step I am going to take towards becoming independent. I am moving out of my mum’s house and moving into a student house with my 3 male friends: Chaz, Niall and Rob. My contract starts on the 24th of June but I wont officially move in until September when University starts again. So far now I am still living at home and cant wait till I move out :)

I want to be brave enough to rely only on myself…

I finally was able to do things on my own, like going to interviews, meetings w/o my mom taking me. o_O Or taking care of my own person business; Medicaid issues, going to the doctor, etc. I still have a way to go but it’s a start. Yupp

I have been babied and it has ruined my train of being able to think like a healthy and stable adult at 19. It has caused major setbacks and problems in my life. I realize that in order for me to be happy and mentally stable, I need to learn how to separate myself from my ‘rents without going crazy for a while. Yupp.

In December I went out and met some friends at a restaurant/ bar/ reunion alone. I really didn’t have any anxiety about it at all. In fact I wanted to go alone. My mom was shocked. She said you’re going alone?? You sure have made progress! That made me feel proud!

Well, I moved a month ago 1700 miles away from home to live with my sister. I had a lot of hopes for this move and I was looking forward to having kind of a clean start on life where I could start getting myself sorted out and basically force myself to be independent. I have to admit, it has been difficult so far. This is the largest city I have ever lived in, and it’s pretty intimidating to me. I rarely go anywhere alone, even though I want to everyday.
Also, my job search is not going well, and without a job, I have no money- so, I’m sure I’ll have to borrow some again soon.

I may be 23 years old, but I am WAY too dependent on my family and being so far away from them has been hard for me. Not only do they bail me out when I have a financial problem, but they are also my support when I struggle emotionally and have to make decisions.
It is time that I start learning how to solve my own problems! I hope that once I find a good job, this will get easier.

Hello all!, my life is a down hill because i want to be independant and i have major social anxiety so its really difficult for me. Its sucks majorly when you are 21! and still under my parents roof. I have yet to pay a single bill in my life, ive only gotten 2 jobs in my life that longest one was 3 months!!! now, this is really really pathetic of me of not being able to do things on my own, i have tryed everyday. People say in order to start you’re life and get it going and the indepented exp come in to play, that you need to get a job, but i majorly suck in getting a job since i got social anxiety so it make me mumbles on job interviews. I seriously want to get out, get my own place, a new car, a new life!. But i have no clue where to start. I am in depented in few things like chores, going to the store, small stuff, etc. And NO! i dont depend on my parents to do things for me at ALL! i dont get money from them, ok maybe 20$ here and there, but its not a every day,week type of stuff. I just feel deedly immature for my age so its causing depretion in my life so lately its been like an anxiety of life, i get anxiety of allmost everything that come threw my mind witch causing depretion witch causing my life to go more and more of a down hill and i want to change that but i have no clue where to start. I need to stop saying (you need to get a job, mark) and start doing it, witch ive been trying hard but i have no clue why i cant. My parents moved like 4 months ago to a new city, and ofcourse, i aswell with them cause i got nowhere to go, so, i said to myself, ok, this a new life now, start fixing it and get a job since i thought its a bigger city, there would be more jobs aviable, witch i have been working out alot but verry poorly on the job search, and then we got the economy all messed up that allmost everywhere are fireing instead on hireing. So yea, this suck majorly. I hope none of this sounds like im a cry baby and cant do it myself, i can and i know i can but not in the real world type stuff witch i need to start learning. And no i dont want to see a doctor cause im fine, i just get alot of anxiety when im not comfterable, BIG EXAMPLEs: i walk in to a store to ask for a application, but anxiety kicks in when i see anyone behind the caunter for me to ask, and i walk right out cause i have social anxiety so i get afraid of asking and allso i am a major anti-rejection, so i feel i’ll get rejected if i ask for a application! how pathetic is that? and then the other anxiety is when im allways thinking when people look at me i automaticly start assuming there thinking bad of me. So yea, these are few of many that i need to work on. I just want to be free and not worry about any of those things. I dont know really, what is rong with me?, i have allways search for my help but never reached it, and when i tell my loved ones or someone verry close to me, they all LAUGH and reject the help i need because they say its just me, and its all in my head. maybe it is, maybe not, but i do know i do worry alot so thats when any kind of anxiety kicks in. I dont expect anyone to reply to me but it be verry verry nice to hear a good opinion from anyone. Ok i will stop typing now, seems like noone is going to read this long thing. And yes im new to this website and this is my first post so dont be harsh on me. Thank you. -ooZe

With each new experience I feel myself becoming more independent. Today I went to an appointment with my DORS counsellor on my own, an appointment that I actually called and scheduled myself. Called in and made an appointment with my academic supervisor. I’m very proud of myself. I want to be self-reliant, and not need my parents for everything, and I’m moving steadily in that direction. And it’s much easier and going more quickly than I imagined it would.

I did successfully sign up for my class on my own yesterday, and bought the book. woohoo. Now what I want is to do it myself next time I need a prescription refilled…