after 4 years of being with my ex, and then another year of talking about getting back together with him…
i’ve now had enough time away from him, and managing not to see him or talk to him (for almost another year)that i can feel confident and happy about my decision to neither be with him or get back together with him.
i’m able to move on and start something new without him constantly interupting something that may evolve into someone/thing i could care for.
How to stop getting back together with my ex
How I did it: I decided to cut off all contact with him. Delete him from everything: messenger, my cell phone, etc
It was hard but I know it's for the best. There will be no more temptation this way and he won't be able to talk me back into it.
Lessons & tips: You're not going to get over someone if you keep in contact with them or get reminded of them frequently so you need to just get rid of all methods of communication. Maybe not forever but at least for a while.
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lynnorajean is very recently married to Steve Livingston
I had a 20 year on and off relationship that sucked the juice out of me. We were crazy together and there was never any PEACE. Who needs that? If you want a hot cup of tea, you gotta empty the cup (of cold old tea). Once I ended this relationship I was able to get on with a saner more peaceful life… also, I was eventually able to have a (grown-up) relationship with a saner more peaceful person… and in turn fell sanely in love. It can happen.
And when I had to get a protective order against him, I knew that he would never change.
There is a reason it does not work out, and everytime it doesn’t it increases a feeling of worthlessness that is not accurate.



