become better at small-talk

I want to be able to fill those awkward silences in my telephone conversations because I can’t bear when no one is speaking on the line because what’s the use of phoning someone if it’s just to listen to them breathing?

that sucks for small talk

im getting there. for a while i attempted the not complaining about anything method to appear more likeable…this works to a degree. i still need to have a personality! i need an opinion. i tend to ask alot of questions about the other person as well. i just go with the flow most times now. when i was younger i never had a problem but over the last couple of years i started to worry….now i realized who i am again and my self esteem is back up. i think that makes a huge difference. i am no longer pretending to be happy. i am happy…and its all thanks to positive attitude and exercise….its not like i have had any major life changes in the past 12 months. i have just realised how to be happy.

How do i start?

I’m usually a quiet person…

I still do not know whether it is such an important skill. I can chat people in the street, I like talking, I have fun speaking to and with my friends and parties, but I do NOT like official parties, or just parties with lots of people I do not know, but probably would be good if I would know and have that small talk with them. Isn’t boring? Is it useful? But then on the other hand I am standing there like mute and smiling, if I could talk all those simple things at least I would kill the time… Just thinking…

i dont do good at small talking because…
1. people often talk about things that i dont know nothing about like sport, even though i think i know a little about most things
2. some people with small children talk about them a lot and i dont have any
3. People often talk about people i dont know and things they have done together when I wasent there, even when i try to say “Who is she/he” they would say something like “it someone you dont know” and keep on talking about people i dont know
4.I cant be funny or tell jokes and theirfor i dont do good in light conversation, i do better in serious conversation about a specific topic.

5. people often talk about their relationship or who they are attracted to, I dont have much action in my love life and even when i do its to private to talk about.
6. people often gossip/talk bad about others i dont buy in to that.
7.because I know people gossip i tend to think before i talk because if i say something weird its gonna be me next time
8. people dont listen to me in a crowd they interupt or keep talking when i have something i am trying to say.
I dont think i am shy, i wont to improve this cause many people have a problem with me being quiet and because its hard to get to know people.

Im pretty bad at talking to people in general, unless im extremely comfortable around them which doesn’t happen very often. But if you want to get better at something, take it slow and start small, right? :)

I used to think that it’s manipulation to do small-talk intentionally. But I found out that small-talks make us relax and happy, get to know each other better, and improve relations. So I want to become better at small-talk. I’m not talkative, but I think say the right words and choose the right subjects help too.

My dad’s girlfriend’s best friend came over and I’m scared to do anything! haha
They just went to the liquor store… she’s really judgmental and likes to gossip and talk badly about people, and I think she’s seriously fake.
Even my dad’s girlfriend said so.

She really terrifies me and I have no idea what to say or do around her. Like every word or step I take is being judged to the core.

Hmm…