keep in touch with old friends

One of my pals from school had joined the gym and was encourraging me to do the same. When i finally did it was good to have someone to go with to begin with at least. We met up once a week for a workout. Now we both joined a running club along with her neighbour. It gives us another reason to catch up and meet some new people.

Theres only three people i still talk to from school and i only left high school 3 years ago. I think what happens is that your freinds with certin people in school and there in that inviroment they are your friends but out of school you dont see wach other much which is why you lose contact with them. I think this is whats happened with my uni mates too.

But i suppose you dont need hundreds of pals cause if you happen to bump into them on teh street its nice to hear what they’ve been up to. When i think about it i never had loads of close friends at school and im still im touch with my best freind so thats the most important thing. I think for me thats the best i could have hoped for.

I’ve been putting off contacting one person by email for over a year. She was once of my closet friends in high school but she married into money after college. I began to feel that I wasn’t as good as her and that she would judge me. I also didn’t like some things she said and did once we got out of college. Once I took a day off work to go see her. She knew I had planned this but she left early because her infant was bothering her parents. If she had only communicated with me, I would have made arrangements to meet her. She just said I was single and could come to her because it was different when you have kids. That may be true but she still hurt my feelings and didn’t apologize. I may have been single but I still had responsibilities and couldn’t just drop everything. I’ll probably feel better if she responds to my email. I don’t expect things to be the same though. I have had dreams about her for years. It’s like my mind created a whole other life in my dreams. I guess I could have called her but if I have felt rejected by someone, I procrastinate any contact sometimes for years.

It was nice to see her again and update each other on our lives. Praying for one old friend with cancer. Trying to get my nerve up tp contact my best friends from high school. I don’t know why this is so hard. I’m going to try contacting one’s mother while I visiting my parents on Father’s DAy if I don’t chicken out again. Must keep my nerve! I’ve been reading old letters. Two were to friends that I know ended due to differences. It was sad to read the letters but i’ve moved on.

I feel I’m doing ok for this goal but actually I did nothing. I’m just contacting with my older brother who came back home from abroad and he talked me who he’d met some of the friends since we were very little. It’s so fun and feel settled to hear from my brother even it is happening to me. We share the same memory of our childhood.

...because at the end of this school year all but one of my friends is moving to another school =’( im really going to miss them and im CERTAINLY going to stay in touch with them!

An old friend emailed me that she has skin cancer and wanted me to prayer for her. I agreed and suggested she check out 43 Things for encouragement and setting goals for recovery.

I hope I can meet some of them. If not, try to contact by phone or e-mail.

Honestly, catching up with the friends I’ve contacted and my present friends keeps me plenty busy. I have two that I need to contact soon. I dream about them all the time. In my dreams, they have developed a dream life of my unconscious mind’s creation. Sometimes they have messages for me. I rarely remember what those are when I wake though. could it be that I am afraid to talk them again? YYYYYYYYYeeeeeeeeeessssssssssssssssssssss! All the more reason to do it now!

Foxling – totally agree, after reading your mission statement – this needs to be done…
- Birthdays: Keep track of people’s birthdays and send brief well-wishes & people I want to remain close to I will ring also.
- Holiday cards: Mandatory to send these to everyone! People make the effort for me & I like to recieve them!
- Special event (i.e. anniversary’s / children’s birthdays etc) Make a special note of these dates & send cards!
- Send emails / phone calls every few months to say ‘Hi’
- Start emailing old school friends & regain connections.

It’s surprising how quickly people can fall out of your life. I’ve never been good at keeping in touch, but I do appreciate the “what I’ve been up to” emails from others who are. So I shall try. The difficult part will be deciding who to include/exclude.

Concrete goals
- birthdays : keep track of people’s birthdays and send brief well-wishes.
- holiday cards : I love making these, so why not be one of those cheesy people who sends you a card every year.
- gatherings : try to have a gathering with high school / college / etc friends once a year
- send ‘update emails’ : not too often, maybe 3-4 times a year.