I’m trying to come up with ideas to get regular massages without it costing money! Anyone have any workable ideas? 3 years ago

Your body needs to be held and to hold, to be touched and to touch. None of these needs is to be despised, denied, or repressed. But you have to keep searching for your body’s deeper need, the need for genuine love. Every time you are able to go beyond the body’s superficial desires for love, you are bringing your body home and moving toward integration and unity.
— Henri Nouwen 3 years ago

nearness vary in some degree. I think it correlates closely enough with the degree we know people around us. it is unlikely people that feel satisfaction at going in the overcrowded public transport. we choose those whom we want to hug, even if do that spontaneously. these days I notice some kind of dependence of nearness in people’s behaviour .. what does that indicate? there are a lot of people holding hands, hugging, kissing even if they are not very close with each other, this becomes as ritual, let’s say you meet someone and hug or kiss. is the loneliness expressed this way? why do we want such close contact? 4 years ago

to put it briefly…

it happened last week and brought different and equivocal feelings not just to me, but also to my group mates I am studying with. the opinions distribute according to the saying “taste differs”..

last week we had a new professor to deliver a lecture. and that was the most unusual lecture I have ever had. he started as every new don- introduced himself, said a few words on the plan we were going to cover, etc. and then turned to one of my group mate ( as we were sitting aroung, like in a circle) and asked her name, she answered, then he asked whether she could see the biggest key on his compiuter’s keyboard and took her hand helping her to press that key. and this was just a beginning, then he turned to the other side, touched other girl’s knee and asked her to read what was posted on the screen. and this lasted almost for 3 hours.. in the beginning some of us laughed.. and after each laughter he used to say “the ones who laugh the loudest will have to take off their trousers first”. as the auditorium was quite small and the air was getting stuffy someone asked to open the window and he just replied “disrobe/ undress”. maybe his words could be considered to be jokes if not the touching: as I wrote he turned to one or another side and touched those girls’ hands, knees or hips and when giving out the syllabi he touched some girls shoulders- I was among “those lucky ones” as well..

well, some my group mates thought this was fun, also that he had no “bad thoughts” on his mind and was just joking.. others considered this to be harassment.
what do you think? would this be acceptable for you? is this the way you would like to be touched? where is the line between inappropriate and right?

please let me know, I will appreciate your answers. 4 years ago

A kiss is a lovely trick designed by nature to stop speech when words become superfluous.

— Ingrid Bergman

I think I now know what this goal is about. It is about communication. communion. It is about sharing the unspeakable using the only language that makes any sense. It is about a deep-seated vibe of knowing. It is a dance. It is a massage. It is a long molten soul hug. It is me sharing me with you. Divine. 4 years ago

Becoming less of a personal space freak. Now only occasionally seized by random “don’t touch me” moments. :) My friends/boyfriend are great for not teasing me about it…much. =p 5 years ago

I’m weird about being touched—very rare that I am comfortable enough with someone to let them touch me, let alone sleep next to me, hug me, etc.

I like my personal space and all, but do I have to be such a freak about it? Gosh. 5 years ago

worth doing 6 years ago

Being touched by another human being (either physically or emotionally) allows one to get a glimpse of life’s fabric. It’s scary (too some more than others), but it’s worth it. I don’t believe in touching to harm one another though. That would not be worth anything. 7 years ago

I don’t know what this one is about. I don’t consider myself a very touchy person. I wasn’t raised that way. But I enjoy touching and being touched. People enjoy my touch. I am a massage practitioner (but not practicing any longer). So what’s the deal? 7 years ago

with being touchy feely in a private situation. but due to past experiences, i find it hard to let my guard down in public. i need to learn that physical interaction is ok, and that whatever is holding me back is in the past. 7 years ago

I have a hard time being physical with anyone.. I’d like to change that and find comfort with myself and others.. 7 years ago