keep in better touch with friends

did not finish a letter I started…

But I’m at least thinking about how often I’m in touch with them instead of just remembering once every six months and then feeling bad about it.

S-Finally had a long conversation today
A-Hung out the other night. I feel like we’re drifting apart..it’s hard to think of what to say to each other (which sucks). I don’t know how to make this any better…but I’m trying. One time we did a little sewing project together, which was a blast. Maybe we just need to find some more sewing projects (besides, she has an extra room for sewing, which I do not have)
M-she’s the only one left…will get a letter out in the mail to her.

It was the first time I had talked to S in a long time. Need to be better at being in touch with her, especially as she is far, far away and does not have a lot of friends in her new town.

Got a busy week this week.

I’m out with Heather and some other people for drinks and a pub quiz on Wed, meeting T for a meal Thursday, back to my parents this weekend, and at a BBQ for one of my muso friends on Saturday.

Yay!

M-saw at her wedding and sent long letter, also talked to on the phone a few times
S-Made an effort at the phone; played phone tag; sending her a funny card today
A-hung out numerous times, discussed renting a movie and hanging out sometime in June; will email to make date concrete this week.

And just like that, I actually AM in better touch with them! While I was at it this morning, I sent my grandmother and great aunt a card, too.

Talked to S on the phone yesterday
Met A for baking today—very fun
M – talked to her on the phone, would like to get a letter out to her this week.

Sent a nice long email to my friend Lisa in my lunch hour. I hope she enjoys it. Hopefully if she comes over from Russia to see her parents for summer she will be able to visit me too.

I saw old of my oldest friends Mum yesterday and she mentioned my friend had finished Uni for this year and so would be up north for the next five months. I sent her an email asking her to meet up next time I visit my parents.

I havn’t seen her since Christmas so if a plan comes together I will be very happy.

They are both close and old friends, but we are spread out and not in as good of touch as we should be. I get upset about that sometimes, but I can’t really complain unless I’m willing to make initiating effort and at least do my best to prod them along.

S-lives far away. Effort to call her for a longer conversation once a month
M-lives far away. Effort to call her (hard to contact via phone) and write one letter once a month
A-lives here and we just never get together. Make an effort to hang out in person at least once a month.

Goals for April:
M just wrote me a letter, and she is getting married in a few weeks, so I think I’ll try to get a letter out to her before I fly out and see her.

A-email into her about baking together before it gets too hot. Will wait to hear back.

S-give her a call, esp. as I probably won’t see her at our friend’s wedding.

Most of the people in my life that come under the friend umberella I see really regularly which is great. However there are a couple of older friends who I don’t seem to see hardly at all but who’s friendship I still value. It is harder when people are far away but at least if I make a real effort then I won’t have to to blame myself if the friendship does eventually drift apart.

My first part of doing this will be to write to my old school friend Lisa who is at university in Russia at the moment.

I’ve been a hermit for the last couple of months and I need to stop! I picked up the phone last night and called one girlfriend. I’m hoping to call my sister today. I need to stay in better touch with people!