The biggest thing for me right now is letting go of everything i was familiar to. i am now a jr. at school and boy did time past by! i still remember freshman year just like it was yesterday. when i met all the older kids and whatnot. now all my friends have 1.graduated or 2.moved away. things have really changed. at school there are soo many annoying freshmans and now we are in slc’s how gay is that?! and everyone they are gone..they’ve left. nothing more but a memory. as i walk the corridors at our school i can recall countless times when things happened there and there. sighh now theres new kids hanging out where me and my friends use to hang out. they are such a desgrace. i mean my friends are still around, but not ‘those friends’ they’ve all gone. i just wanna not forget but i wanna stop dwelling on it. and just reminisce happily. soo much has happened…my first boyfriend and i 2 years ago taken away by a back-stabbing slut. my bestfriends moving to cali. and arizona, the people i could always count on off to college. whats left?
How to stop obsessing over the past
How I did it: I used to just re-run everything in my head and realsed that this was stupid. I had to leave it go, learn from it and move on. Its like losing a friend it hurts at first but after awhile you move on and figured out its was for the best, everything happening for a reason. sometimes people in your life are just a reminder of the past, and even though you think they really care about you there the ones that hurt you the most. if you wanna stop obessing about the past sometimes all you need is a good cry and a fresh start.
Lessons & tips: stop focusing on it or thinking about it to mush, you should keep busy and make plans for the future, you cant go back only ahead. so just forget about it and move on....... what ever doesnt kills you only makes you stronger.
Resources: someone to talk to always help, and something in the future to look forward to.
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we must learn from our past, but should not dwell into it.
similarly, we should dream for the future but should not start building castles in the air by elaborate plannings.
try to make the best of today – the moment – that we have in our hands – which is actually ours.
i have done this. after going through various ( a series of bad incidents in life ) i practised to live in the moment and mastered the art of zen.
it helped me forgive all those people who hurt me in the past. i still have a good relationship with all those people. it helped me clear all scars on my mind, body and soul.
i got some super strength to think positive and feel optimistic all the time – in each situation and go ahead and live life with full zest – irespective whether its the upward phase or the downward. i learnt to enjoy both with aplomb.
so keep it up.
live in the moment. its worth everything
How do you let go of the past? How do you forgive yourself for something you did that was a big mistake?
Now that I have lived my life—I can say that I have learned from my mistakes. Now I can move forward and help others with the same kinds of problems. It would have never worked. I was not really me when I was in that relationship. Now I need to focus on the now and the future. It’s a much more open world.
last night i had yet ANOTHER dream about someone that i can’t let go of. he broke up with me 10 years ago. it’s so pitiful that I can’t let go. there is no way i would be the person i am today if i had stayed in that relationship. so why can’t i let go?
What good does it do me to obsess over the past? I don’t feel good about it. No regrets. I must move forward. Emptying my mind of things I can do nothing about frees me to embrace the future and all of its uncertainties. Plus it’s fun to look forward. Move on. Move ahead.
I hate it when I obsess over the past. It really keeps me from moving forward. I want to let go. I must let go. Anytime I start down that path I tell myself I must stop. Any other advice?
