stop being shy

i have self-image issues BAD. i always get self-conscious because i’m a little overweight and i didn’t have the best childhood.. but i’m determined to step out of this shell!

I have improved over the past few years in school, but I am still unable to approach a group of people I don’t know and attempt to talk to them. I think it is my fear of rejection that is keeping me away from others. I really need to stop this, but I don’t know how and it’s ruining my chance at having a social life.

this is a really really hard goal. i’m very shy and it stops me doing what i want to do- like going for them music lessons i want. and putting things off for weeks, hair appointments etc.

I talked to a girl today who I usually get really shy around. I was a bit timid but I think a did a good job opening up. At work today I’ve been doing ok not clamming up.. but I’ve been tired and grumpy so I haven’t been the most friendly person. I’m doing well at the goal but still haven’t quite succeeded.

Today I did pretty good at this. I wasn’t shy talking to waiters when I went out for breakfast and dinner. I felt a little insecure when I was at the beach in my bikini. I also felt a little insecure when I went to this mall where a lot of rich girls with expensive clothes, hair-dos and make-up go. I did okay with this goal today, but there is still a long way to go. I think achieving this goal and loving myself go hand in hand.

It’s hard to change when you’ve been a certain way for as long as you can remember.

I’ve made SO much progress from where I USED to be – but I’m still shyer than I’d like to be. And I’ve figured out that mostly, I’m only shy when I’m INTIMIDATED by people, which just happens to be a lot of the time lol If I’m around somebody prettier than me, or more outgoing or fashionable or funny, I kind of shut down because I don’t feel like I’m any of those things, and I’m like, “Fuck, I can’t compete with that, so why bother!” That, and it takes me a while to “warm up” to people, even with my best friend its taken some time to where I feel completely myself around him because he’s just so amazing to me and I have a HUGE inferiority complex where he’s concerned. But hey, thank god for him and his unending patience with my craziness lol

And as much as I realize that lifes not a competition to be better than anyone, these things still bother me. It’s just how I’ve been conditioned… Something strange to me though is that; I’ve started talking to this really nice girl in my ceramics class (which is a huge step in itself, talking to a girl!)and she’s totally the opposite of me, she’s really talkative. I told her how I was so shy most of the time, and she said, “God, sometimes I really wish I could be like that!!” I was like, Scuse me?
Thats a new one. But it was kinda humbling. Made me feel more okay with the way I am.

It’s always going to be a work in progress I think. But hey, one day at a time, right?

I just don’t understand how some days people can’t shut me up and then other days they can’t get a word out of me! i think it’s just certain people i’m with, like if i’m with a boy i like i go quiet but with friends i’m always laughing and talking away, i sometimes go a bit shy with family members it’s strange.. i think i just need to stop worrying about what people think of me and just be myself

all my life ive been shy and self conscience. i was watching home movies of my family and u would always see me in the backround not interacting with other kids. i guess i was shy. my self conscience started well i guess ive always been that way i was always taller and chunkier then everyone else in class, i used to be made fun of because of that in kindergarten. i guess it stayed with me my whole time. when i start middle school my traits developed even more when the cool kids made fun of my clothes and i was really quiet. i had very few friends in class. now im 18 outta highschool…and see all my highschool buddies are doing other things and im mostly home everyday…on the internet or just hanging out with my sister. this could get really dull and repetitive. so what i want to do is make friends if not many atleast one that lives near me and i could go to their house when im bored…someone give me advice please…thankyou!

i have worked my self out of being as shy as i used to be, atleast in some situations. but i am still often very shy, like when im around groups of 3 or more, not including me, i pretty much dont talk at all, friends or not. however when im with 1 or two people i talk a lot. also the one thing that i have not been able to force my self out of is my shyness around girls that i like, and the ability to ask them out or whatever. whenever i do talk to girls they always see me as “just a friend”, which makes it very difficult to find a girlfriend… i hate being shy…

I mentally slap myself everytime I act shy in front of others. I need to snap out of it. I don’t know what my problem is.