Not have a baby for at least three years

At the moment, it would be impossible for me to get pregnant. My doctor has advised a 6 to 12 month abstinence, of which it has been 5 months already. I am currently doing physiotherapy for pelvic floor problems, and as intercourse is one of the causes of that pain, it is, for now, prohibited.

Yep, it’s a barrel of laughs.

One day I really want kids very soon, the next I have reasoned myself out of it. But it comes and goes like this every now and then. It’s not a good time to be starting a family, I don’t even have a job, and Erik won’t be working until at least the start of next year. Also, not knowing where we are going to be living affects this, whether we’ll be in Sweden or in England. But I have in my mind that I want to be pregnant by the time I am 25, which is November next year. I don’t know why, but year 25 has always been a bit of an :O year, you should have started on the path you want to follow by that point. But maybe that’s silly, maybe it’s some conditioning from years ago talking :) who knows.

I know it sounds like I’m setting myself up for failure here, but I think abstaining from giving birth at least until I’m 19 is a suitably lofty goal for one such as myself. If I really stick to it, I might even stay baby-free well into my twenties!
Fingers crossed… keep me in your prayers, plz.

I’ve got to say, this isn’t exactly a hard goal for me. But I thought it had been a while since I’d written anything on the subject. More of my friends have had babies, I am finding out by the wonderful tool of Visagelivre ;) and yet still I am not broody or anxious. I see pictures of their little wrinkled children and I think to myself ‘I wonder how many dirty nappies they have to change per day?’ or ‘is that their third, or fifth change of clothes this morning?’. It’s better also because I work with children (when I am working, that is), who are very fun to be around, but can also be little sods. It’s still a great feeling to hand them back at the end of the day.

Don’t get me wrong, I do want kids, just not right now. I’m enjoying living with Erik by myself too much. And occasionally when I do see a cute kid in a shop, I wonder what ours will look like, but for now, that’s as far as it goes. Keep your tantrums and your sleepless nights, I’m busy with other stuff :)

NN: So, do you have any kids, Rache?
Me: Oh, no. I’m only 22 anyway
NN: You know, that really doesn’t mean anything, a lot of people are having kids younger now.
Me: Yeah, I guess you’re right.

I was more surprised that she actually thought I might have kids. I always thought it was obvious I didn’t, from my demeanor and stuff. I don’t know.

Or is everyone having babies? Loads of my friends have become pregnant, the main heading on my magazine was ‘Want to have a baby?’, and also, there seem to be countless ads on television for the new Clear Blue digital indicators. What’s going on??

...But lately there’s been a rash of my friends and others my age having kids and falling pregnant, and I at least want to wait a while. I’m only 21 for God’s sake, and most of these girls are younger! Right now what is important to me is working, saving, travelling and enjoying being an adult, without heaping even more responsibility on top of that. Still sound like an odd goal? :) I think it’s sensible.