get married, stay married, and live happily ever after

What is with that question? How are you even supposed to answer that!

I had no idea I was in for the Spanish Inquisition when I returned from my honeymoon… and now that I’m getting the question I’m not sure what to answer. Now, I don’t mean that in a “cue the suspense music: here come the troubled waters!” kind of way, I just don’t know what people expect from this question.

Great? A lot like before the big day? We’re getting used to it? An enthusiastic, “We love it!”?

There just isn’t a good answer for this.

But if I had to answer it honestly (and not just throw something out there to satiate the masses), I would say…

It’s all of the things I mentioned.

I love coming home every evening and seeing my best friend. It’s better than anything to see him every night, and every morning. I love that part and I feel beyond lucky to get so much more time together. I used to go to sleep every night thinking about him, and I still do… but now I don’t have to miss him! ;)

But… I like to leave things out where I use them, and he likes to put everything put away. I want to spend more time hanging out at the apartment every weekend, and he would rather visit our families the whole time. I want/he wants… etc. Honestly? Most of the stuff we’re adjusting to in our new living situation just isn’t that hard to deal with. After knowing each other for so long, we pretty much knew what to expect and we are making decisions together and adjusting really well. Even better than I expected!

There really haven’t been too many surprises, so in a way it’s a lot like before… only more awesome and more challenging!

So how is married life?

I’ll keep you posted, lol.

I don’t really need to be “married” or have a “marriage license”,
I just really want to be in a very long-term, committed relationship with someone that I can see my self with from now until forever.

A wise man once told me, “Don’t get into a relationship if you already know that at some point, you’d want to get out of it.”

I think I kinda did the opposite of that before but now I know better. At this point, I am totally free of any negative relationships and I feel whole and ready for a really good one to start. :)

small setback. perhaps this isn’t the goal i should be pursuing. maybe i should try to just pursue- be happy. with myself and whatever situation i find myself in.

In 29 days I will be a Mrs!

After May 24th this goal will really start for us. It is hard to believe that we are finally about to be married…

I can’t think of anyone I’d rather spend the rest of my days with.

Two great quotes:

Chains do not hold a marriage together. It is threads, hundreds of tiny threads which sew people together through the years. (Simone Signoret)

&

It is only possible to live happily-ever-after on a day-to-day basis. (Margaret Bonnano)

October 3rd.

We’ve been talking marriage and kids and that we want to spend our lives together. We’ve both been open and realistic about the fact that that doesn’t necessarily mean we will work out, but it’s the first time for both of us where we both feel we’ve met the one you marry and are with forever.

Which, in a way, I guess makes me slllightly nervous but happy at the same time since this is what I’ve always wanted and been looking for. But yeah, never had it this real before and really enjoying it. In hindsight, the few girls that I thought were possibilities for marriage, that I thought I might marry, now just seem so not right for me.

Before there were so many things that fit about us, but there was always at least one major thing that I knew from the beginning that might now work in the long run. So, this is the first time where something with someone is just so nice and easy and just works and where it’s so completely mutual and loving and she’s so committed and willing to work on anything or talk about anything.

It’s 100% reciprical. I haven’t felt this close to someone in probably 10 years or so. Really connected. Normally, if I have an insecurity about something a woman I’m dating who is supposedly so into me, it’s like she sees it as a sign of weakness and just shuts down from me. With Beth, she is loving, receptive and will listen, support me and assure me of anything I need. That’s all I ever wanted before, is just a little assurance, and Beth has no problem giving that to me, which just makes me stronger.

It’s really a nice and wonderful relationship and I’m so happy we found each other:)

i intend to pick wisely haha

This is a lifetime project. Ingredients are willing partners, open minds, forgiveness, honesty, attention, love, patience, and luck.

Em breve, casarei.
Tudo que mais quero é que seja feliz e para sempre!