My whole last week was ruined. Its a stupid story, but nonetheless, I must tell the stupidness of it.
We were invited to a friends home for Chinese New Year last week.
First, its a huge family of Chinese Americans, and we are white, so of course there is the whole not belonging there thing.
Second, I have terrible people skills, so I’m always a total social misfit anyway. I feel grateful if I manage not to spill or break anything during the evening and talking to people is beyond painful, at any gathering.
Third, I gained back a bunch of weight I lost last year. I knew I was doing it but it was the holidays and a bunch of other crap that I won’t go into now, but I’m overweight and over the overweight I find acceptable. I know this and its my issue.
Fourth, my boyfriends friend and girlfriend of his best friend has a multitude of personal issues, but for some reason, since I moved back to be with him, she has made it her project to help me lose weight. Now, I never asked her to help me. I actually asked her not to help me a couple of times because it really isn’t helpful and its none of her darn business. She decided anyway that I just really needed someone to encourage me. So she’d text me early in the morning and ask me if I’d gone for a walk. She avoided stopping to get me a treat at a bakery on my birthday because I should have sugar, even though as we left the restraunt for my birthday dinner we had agreed to drive there, she turned to avoid it and my boyfriend followed her. Oh, yes, and we were on a camping trip and she was in the front of a group of 8 of us biking. She was going really fast to set the pace for all of us to get a good workout. The group behind her were all complaining to her boyfriend, so he finally went up and asked her to slow down. She thought it was just me, so she came back to me, slowed down to such a slow pace that I could barely keep my bike upright, and seperated me from the rest of the group.
OK, I just wrote this, along with a bunch of other weird ass crap off as her deep rooted problems. Then she just totally blew it last week.
Her boyfriends niece has boxes of girlscout cookies to sell at the dinner. There were 3 cases there next to the front door. Now, if you’ve had kids in Girl Scouts, you know that the troop gives you your quota to sell. If you don’t sell them you end up stuck with a couple hundred bucks worth of cookies. So I figured that since it was a big family party, mom had decided to hit up the relatives to unload some of the cookies. As we were leaving, I offered to buy a box. One box.
It turned into this massive scene with half the family standing there. I wasn’t really choosing, so I asked my boyfriend to pick a box. Then she said it. She said, “Well make sure you pick something she won’t eat”. Seriously, in front of a bunch of people that I felt uncomfortable with anyway, thats what she said to the whole darn group. So needless to say, I didn’t really take it that well.
So let this be a lesson to anyone out there that seems to think they are “helping” someone lose weight. You aren’t unless they really have asked you to “help” them. Otherwise, you’re just being a jerk. 2 months ago