LEARN HOW TO SAY I LOVE YOU

Lately, I have been telling my 2.5 year old nanny boy (with whom I have worked since he was 4 months old) that I love him. Sometimes I say, “Guess what, Jack, I love you.” Sometimes I tell him that I want him to know that I love him. Sometimes I give him a hug/kiss and say I love you. It has been hard to break away from my parents’ way of verbally expressing love and have definitely found myself naturally telling Jack I love him the same way they (perhaps somewhat ineffectively) tried to verbally communicate their love. (And don’t get me wrong, I KNOW that my parents love me…but sometimes it doesn’t necessarily FEEL like it.)

Sometimes Jack just smiles in response when I tell him I love him. Sometimes he says “yeah” in a funny, deep, sage-like wise old way. Sometimes he says “I love you, Ni-Ni.” I also sing a made-up song that goes “Jackson, Jackson, too, I love you,” and “Maddie, Maddie-Roo, I love you,” (to his little sister). Today I asked him if Ni-Ni loves him a lot or a little and he said “a lot.”

That’s my story. I still don’t tell my family I love them, but I am making more of an effort to show them that I do. And at the end of the day, I put more stock in actions than words on their own, but I feel like words + actions together is an amazing, comprehensive way to communicate my love.

and I say it in my own unique way. Usually it is something like, “I like you a lot and I’m glad you’re my friend.” One of my friends recently asked me why I say it like that and why I sometimes look uncomfortable when she tells me that she loves me. I explained that in my family, my dad would say things like “You know I love you, right?” which almost felt a little accusatory if I felt that I didn’t…it wasn’t as much affirming as it was telling me what I should know and feel. And my mom would always say it kind of nervously and awkwardly when she felt it was her “duty” or the right thing to say at the moment. So saying “I love you” with those exact words never felt sincere and always seemed to border on obligation. So I say it in my own way when I feel a great depth of love for someone. And I like that. I like saying it in my own way that feels sincere to me and hopefully demonstrates sincerity to others. I was going to wait until I felt comfortable saying the words “I love you” to another person, but maybe it just doesn’t fit me much, maybe I have to do things in my very own way. And I would still like to learn how to communicate it with my family.

I have less problems saying I love You, I like saying it now…and i suprise my boyfriend when i tell him out of no where and he does too. He started to say it more and more and it was easy for me to follow behing it and say it so he deserves alot of credit with this because of him I have less problems saying the words that i dreaded saying throught my life until i met him :)

The other day i wispered on my boyfriend ear…”I love you” it took m a while and after crying quietly he told me to whisper it and i did and felt much better hopefully it would be easier now.

yeah i have to learn how to say thsese words cause they r very important, so imnot going to force my self but i will try, and not just say them in my dreams or day dreams or rehearse them in my head or writting them done but saying it outload