Date a transgender person.

I’ve just always appreciated diverse queer people. I’ve dated both transmen and transwomen. Just learn about your own gender policing and don’t do it to your partners, or anyone for that matter. Learn about transphobia and trans people’s concerns. Be an ally, not a fetishist. Don’t out your partners for your own ends – be that to shock, or to give you queer credibility, remember that everyone owns their own information, and transpeople risk discrimination and violence from outing.

I don’t care what’s in your pants, you’re hot!

At brunch today, my mom said of our server, “she’s waiting for your order.” Later my boyfriend called to the server, “sir, can you bring more water?”

I just thought, “what time do you get off?”