I’ve been thinking about this concept. Is it possible to have boundaries with other people by simply knowing them and enforcing them when they are violated, but without communicating them to the other person? Or does it have another name? If the unspoken boundary is drastic, not communicating them might be a bit unfair to the person on the other end, unless of course their behavior is drastic and threatening.
There are times where communicating a boundary seems very futile and sometimes dangerous. I imagine this would be so with my mom because she gets explosive every time I want to assert myself she gets super defensive or explosive and I really need to set some boundaries but I’m afraid to speak with her about this. So I’m thinking of setting some unspoken boundaries. Good idea or bad idea? 4 years ago
Boundary setting is definitely something that would help me a great deal in many areas of my life. I have a great deal of trouble sticking up for myself and saying no. Though there are some areas of my life where my boundaries are too rigid, there are many that are too loose. I really need to set boundaries with my mom because I have given her too much power over my life and my emotions and I’ve had enough. But part of me is doubtful that she will respect these boundaries. I can definitely expect her to feel threatened and resist because that’s what she automatically did when I asserted myself in the past. I know it will be an uphill battle but eventually I’ll be able to set my limits and not be bullied out of them.
My purpose of this goal is get advice on boundary setting and read more about it and find ways to do it tactfully and firmly. Since it’s going to be difficult with my mom, I need all the help I can get.
If this doesn’t help with my mom (though I have a feeling it will with a little persistence), I’ll probably learn some new skills and be able to set boundaries with others, which could be a step towards setting them with my mom 4 years ago
