Tune into my feelings and list the issues/situations related to uncomfortable boundaries

This boundary is very general and I know I have more control over it than I do the other ones. But hard time saying no to commitments and often end up overbooked and end up having more on my plate than I want and not enough time to take care of my priorities. This is more a boundary I’ll need to set for myself. 4 years ago

Don’t get me wrong, my compassion runs very deep and in generally care about my friends and I want to help them, but I have my limits.

Lately it feels as if some friends have been using me as a ranting post for their relationship issues and they keep going on and on about it even after I try to help them. I understand that they are upset but why do they always have to come to me?
And some friends seem to rub their relationships/sex lives in my face. Again, there’s nothing wrong with sharing and I like my friends to be happy but sometimes enough is enough. I’m not going to make any hard fast rules with this but instead be more aware when enough is enough and assert my boundaries when I need to.

Perhaps part of this is that I’m single and I’m in this mode where I’m not remotely interested in relationships and I just get tired from hearing about all this stuff. Part of me is a little resentful. I know there are a lot of my issues there but I need a little space to heal and open up again without being bombarded with other issues.

I might have a hard time with this boundary because I feel bad about pushing people who need help away. 4 years ago

All these entries for this goal sound like rants and venting…haha

But in a sense they are more assertions. I do plan to do something about them and turn them into boundaries and requests. 4 years ago

This is very important and depending on how stressful the day has been, I will need a few hours or so of uninterrupted quiet time where I don’t have to do anything and will not be interrupted or have to deal with tons of extraneous noise around the house. I always feel that I’m unrealistic when I ask for this so I usually don’t and end up being very stressed without this time to unwind. I really don’t want to be crabby so I need to find a way to get this. There must be a way to work out something with others. I can compromise as long as can find a way to get this without having to make this huge ordeal. 4 years ago

Here’s another uncomfortable boundary. I cannot stand when people blame me or falsely accuse me of something I didn’t do. Especially if they refuse to listen to my side of the story. I also hate when people can’t hold themselves accountable for their own feelings.
The phrase “you made me” annoys me to no end. The other person needs to take responsibility for their feelings and choices and I’ll take responsibility for mine. Sure, there are outside factors but it’s never completely that. Feelings are perfectly normal and I’m even willing to help someone else struggling with feelings but I refuse to take the blame for someone else’s out of control behavior or their hard feelings. For one thing, I will not feel guilt anymore but I’d also like to request that particular people took a little more responsibility. 4 years ago

I’m not sure if this is a boundary issue but I know it’s something I definitely have strong feelings about. (It’s probably a boundary issue on the other end more than a boundary issue for me.)

I can’t stand when friends give you silent treatment when they are angry (or for other reasons) rather than talk things out with you. This behavior really disturbs me and I feel really powerless when it happens. I really just want to talk the issue out, or if the other person’s not up for that, that’s ok if they let me know what’s going on at least. It happened last week and I have a feeling this is going to be one of my boundary themes. 4 years ago

I’m beginning to get an idea of where my boundaries are and am more aware when a violation occurs. 4 years ago