learn how to say 'no'

Getting good at this with my lazy ass brother. He likes to see how much free shit he can get without doing absolutely any work. I hate how he walks all over me. So yeah.. I’ve been saying no a whole lot more. He dislikes this but he can go suck one. lol It feels good to say NO! :D

I would love to be able to tell somoene no and not be afriad of hurting their feelings.

I said no to myself when I wanted to use the internet when I was bored last night (I’m trying to limiit my net time), and it worked! :D

“Self-respect is the fruit of discipline; the sense of dignity grows with the ability to say no to oneself.”

;)

myself is the problem. . . .I realized the problem will only get worse if I don’t at least try to learn the word no. Lately its been hard to control the urges after dinner, lunch or breakfast to just. . . .lose it. I’m slowly loosing my friends over this and I don’t want it controlling me anymore.

As much as I can’t handle rejection, I almost hate having to reject people. I call myself being ‘nice’ and giving them my number, or the time of day, two things I didn’t intend to do in the first place. I don’t like being an opportunist for one thing, and for another thing I’m picky. Not snooty picky, just I know what I want picky. I just need to grow some balls and learn to say ‘no’ to guys who try but that I’m just not into.

I really want to get out of going to Idaho from CA to visit a wedding reception. I have already made the trip to TX attend the wedding, and now am expected to go to the reception. Its boring and expensive. Pls help me think of a nice way to decline! Or think of an excuse!

Practice daily until you get it. The first few times major uncompfort.
Say it with a slight smile. No doesnt have to be a mean thing. Most of the time its out of love so say it with love. “Mommy can I play with this knife” NO! See , its easy.
No, I cant
No
No I dont want to
No thank you
No way
Nope
Urgh let me think , NO.
NO :)

Everytime I try to do this goal I cant I’m way too soft I just like to keep the peace and keep everyone happy even if it means me doing something i dont really want to. Maybe one day ill get stronger and be able to put my foot down with people.

It might be a suicide career move, but I even say no at work. =)