Cassie is Barbie. ♥
Well, apparantly my dad gets out of prison in a couple of months. I really, really, REALLY don’t want to meet him, but I feel obligated to. I just can’t die knowing that I never met my own father.
How I did it: Found contact information on peoplefinders.com. Actually provided perfectly accurate information which helped me also locate other family members from my paternal side.
Lessons & tips: Just be really ready, and don't rush yourself. It took me 27 years to feel strong enough to do it. Prepare yourself for every kind of possible scenario, but also realize that you won't really be able to predict everything. Also, if you can, reach out to an extended family member first. Sometimes it's easier to talk to a more neutral party first, and see if they can answer questions for you.
Resources: Peoplefinders.com did the trick for me.
Cassie is Barbie. ♥
Well, apparantly my dad gets out of prison in a couple of months. I really, really, REALLY don’t want to meet him, but I feel obligated to. I just can’t die knowing that I never met my own father.
My short term goal is the main goal I want to reach. I would like to find and meet my biological dad. I have never met him, and it is a big dream. I want to feel the unconditional love that you are supposed to feel from your father. It is going to take a lot of online research and time. I have been searching for him for about 6 months and have yet to find anything. I know that if I don’t give up, what I am working toward will eventually happen. You should never give up on something you can’t go a day without thinking about.
I met my Dad last night and even though I’m not sure that I believe all the things that he said about the past, it was good to see who he is, what he looks like, what his life is like now. I learned that he has three other children besides my brother and I, and he seems happy now, and his wife seems like a pretty amazing person… It’s strange though, even though I feel like I got some answers, it kind of made me more sad about the past, just realizing everything that might have been if he had made a few different choices in his life…
I’m scared to death to tell my mom I met him. Doing that tomorrow…
I want to meet my dad. I have never met him before and if I did I might not be so sad.
I finally met him. It did cause a lot of drama with my family. My aunt and grandma hate the idea of a relationship between me and him. I’m not even sure we’ll have one. Seeing him face to face was nice, though. I look more like him than anyone on my mom’s side of the family, so it felt nice to see the man I get my looks from. Watching him tear up as we were saying goodbye made it all worth it.
when i met my dad, i was 15 he wasnt the asshole i expected him to be, although he is a crybaby and a whiner who doesnt take responsibility for his own actions but whatever not everyone does. Its good to know where i come from. I do love him, hes my dad.
I am in a point in my life where I want to meet my Dad. My mom and dad got divorced when I was very very young, maybe like 2 years old. Anyways, she didn’t trust him and they made an unspoken truce that if she didn’t ask him to pay child support then he wouldn’t try to contact us. Apparently, he is a very irresponsible person. But when I brought it up with my mom (I am almost 21 years old now) she gave him a call and he said he really wants to start a relationship with me if I wanted to. So I have been talking about with with my therapist on and off for a while. I have a lot of other things going on and I would like to a bit more emotionally mature before that big day, but I think it would be worth doing. Anybody got any advice for me??
I have always had a burning desire to meet my daddy but I’ve always been to afraid, mainly of hurting my mum’s feelings, but since my mum and I have recently stopped speaking and she doesn’t seem to care about me anymore i’ve been thinking ‘why not?’. I’m a bit apprehensive, as maybe my mother had good reason to stop him seeing me in the first place, but I’d still like to find out what he’s like and what he’s been up to for the past 18 years. He may be a good person, maybe he just wasn’t a good husband at the time…and if it does go tits up I haven’t really lost anything :)