accept people for who they are

Upon further advice sought, when I can apply the knowledge of accepting others for the choices they make in whatever situation they had to face with the options they had to work with…I should logically be able to apply this same method to my own idiosyncrasies that I deem unacceptable.

Logically.

I was also further called out on why I preferred to work on goals dealing with others first and myself second. Surely I could see how I can’t really understand acceptance if I can’t accept myself.

Similar to airline emergency cabin instructions. Secure your own air mask first before assisting others…was basically the advice I received.

I loath working on the hard stuff (myself) first.

Ah, sage words of advice…

I asked for enlightenment and I did receive it. And as it so happens the author spoke my language.

“It seems to me that people tend to judge others when they think they have a better answer. Sometimes one just has to realize that we each do what we can with what we have.”

We all have to make hard choices and when it’s my hard choice I say it’s my life..it’s my liberty. Odd how that changes when it’s someone elses…and I fear for them out of love. Odd how that changes when I snap judge out of something in the media when I don’t know them out of the tabloid?

Everybody has a private situation. People have secrets. Even friends… Best friends, family, and certainly co-workers. So I imagine people in the public eye would definably have things blown out of proportion. I live in fear of my secrets, of being judged and I suffer for it.

There has to be something in this enlightenment for me. Is it that accepting people for who they are is actually about understanding that it is about freedom of choice? Is it that acceptance is really a loving and humane act of kindness that’s something I need to do for myself more than I need to do for others?

I tend to be very judgemental of people, holding them up to my personal standards and believing unless they act in a certain way they don’t deserve certain things. I’d like to learn to accept people as they are. In the end I can do nothing to change others – they are who they are. It doesnt mean I have to like them, but I shouldn’t be always critizicing and dissaproving of them.

I tend to judge people by my own personal standards and eventually cut them off. I have a lot of broken relationships because of it.

I want to love everyone. I’d like to accept people, and how they are, and love them for it.

i find this incredibly difficult. I would love to be able to meet someone without passing any judgment whatsoever. Everyone deserves a fair shot…and I wouldn’t want to be judged!

“When others demand that we become the people they want us to be, they force us to destroy the person we really are. It’s a subtle kind of murder. The most loving parents and relatives commit this murder with smiles on their faces.”

- Jim Morrison

[Note: His biography is fascinating.]

I have just recently lost one of my best friends. He was murdered because he was gay. I loved him so much and without him around I feel lost. If anything he has taught me to love my self and other people. Someone killed him because he was gay. I want to look at people for people not just their labels. I am so proud that he called me his friend. I want everybody to accept other people fpr who they are:)

Does anyone feel like they just dont have anyone that they truly admire? Seems impossible to find true, unique, honest people anymore. I know that no one is perfect, but when did everyone become so fake and transparent?

I’ve always been the weird one and lots of people love me for being myself but at the same time people hate that I’m nothing like them and i know what it feels like to be an outcast at times. but at the same time I’m always judging people and i don’t except a lot of people because of the way they act,there clothes,they’re favorite music, and just because i don’t like them period. so i would really like to learn how to accept people because i know how much it hurts to be rejected. i know everybody is different and everybody has a right to be themselves and there is no reason to exclude anybody. my friends accept me for who i am although i can be weird so i should accept others for who they are even if they are nothing like me.