stop trying to save everyone

You can offer your love and support, but you cannot save anyone who doesn’t want to be saved.

And sometimes it takes more love and compassion to let them fall than to keep picking them up.

This is coming from a girl who has babysat four crackheads at a time, who has ALWAYS given people, even strangers, a place to stay, a hot shower, and something to eat, even when I hardly had enough for myself, who has enabled someone for the better part of a year and is now dealing with emotional abuse because I stopped, etc. Yeah, I was a pushover. I hated the drain on ME, though, and I thought I was selfish for that, but now I see that looking out for myself is not necessarily selfish, and that I was doing more harm than good in a lot of ways.

There is only so much you can do for a person. Saving them from themselves is not possible. There is a person in my life that I constantly tried to save and tried to…basically just tried to live his life for him because he didn’t seem to know how. Eventually, it caused so much destruction in MY life that I just had to stop. You can be there for someone and offer help and support, but when it comes down to it, they have to make the decision to change. It’s sad to see someone you care about so deeply completley self destruct.