be nicer to my mother

she is exreme, she is hard to understand and co-exist with, but she is my mother and well deserves the effort it will take me to treat her with empathy and show my love.

but I have been successful in doing some nice and extra thoughtful things for my mom recently. I plan to continue

I don’t really have a great relationship with my mother.
I don’t feel she understands where I come from.

Sometimes I feel she talks too much and unless I press her to keep something I tell her a secret, she would tell someone else.

There’s also some resentment from the past. Separating from my dad and taking me with her exposed me to things I don’t want to write about.

At the same time, I love her deeply
and will fight anyone that tries to hurt her

She’s very generous
And if I need something, she usually comes through

I know she means well but can’t help but be frustrated with her.

I want to show her some appreciation
I want us to have a better relationship

Before it’s too late

It’s difficult to be nice to someone who has mentally & emotionally abused you your whole life.

It’s difficult to be nice to someone who inspired you to move 2 states away, just to get away from them.

It’s difficult to be nice to someone who you cannot have a conversation with, because they will inevitably begin talking about “them”.

It’s difficult.

But I have to try, one last time, to forge some sort of civil relationship with her, keeping boundaries in place so I can maintain my own sanity, while respecting her, and showing her that I love her.

It’s been years since I’ve said I love her.

i started having a real relationship with my mother only a few years ago. i wasted much too much time hating her because essentially i was so much like her. i’m happy to report that we have a very good relationship now. we’ve both grown up so much and realized that we are different but that our differences are what make us each so unique and beautiful! i’m so glad that i’ve done this and made an effort to have a better relationship with my mom because about two months ago i found out that she has stage three ovarian cancer. i can’t imagine how i may have felt if things were not right between us before this happened. make things right with those who matter to you in life…even if it’s hard. i feel like no matter what happens now i can always say to myself that i was a good daughter and that she was a great mother. she is one of my heros.

im gonna call my mom more often….makes sure shez alrite and she has everything that she needs…

sometimes i just cant stand my mum. she’s just too dramatic. at least now i only see her maximum once a week (coz i’m married and living away). so when i do see her, its only for a couple of hours. even when i visit, i’m more like a visitor, so we can get along pretty well now.

i guess the dramatic part she got from her genes. My grandma is like that too. and soon, i’ll be like that too…..!

I need to be nicer towards my mother, I am going to think before I speak, and I am going to be patient and loving cause she is the best mom in the world.

For the vast majority of my life i have been raised by my sister. Though my mom was in the house all she did was spank me when i was bad, tell me when i was wrong, and cook dinners. Well i love/respect my sister so when she upped and moved to florida…. I WAS STUCK WITH THE MONSTER. I never treat her right, because she’s been so bad to me in the past, but now she’s actually trying to be nice but i some how can’t bring myself to be nice or even respect her… Yesterday i got in trouble in class (ROTC) for arguing with another student, and the Col. took me outside to talk to me and he said something that struck a nerve: You’re mom, and me, and Noli, and all other parents/adults seem like all we do is weird stupid hurtful things to you…. but the thing is for some reason (at the time) that “thing” was what we thought we should do to keep you out of trouble or danger. so even though it was a stupid thing we did the first thing we could to get to and help you. We didn’t consider that it could hurt us, or even you….. WE LOVE YOU SO MUCH THAT WE DO WHATEVER ITTAKESTO KEEP YOU STONG, AND HEALTHY, AND BLESSED… okay, mabey i’m not quite saying it right, but you get the message. all this stuff was done for a reason so i need to let go and let God because at this point he’s the only one that will help get over my problems… alright, well i’ve got to go…