get over a past relationship & put my life back together

My boyfriend and I just broke up a month ago, and I have my good days and bad days. I still think about him most of the day. I think we can fix things, but he doesn’t. He feels that I was not there for him the way he was for me. He said I make bad financial desicions. He is right. But I am working on changing, but he has had it. I found out he has spent time on internet dating sites, and lied about going to Florida. I guess he has had it, but i still love him so much. What do I do to get him out of my system, because I now see that it is truly over. We have kept it contact, but all that does is emotionally drain me, because I dont feel like I can just be friends with him at this point.

Want to forget it ever happened. I dont know why its eating me up she is not even worth my time i could do a 100 times better then her.

I’ve been dating my boyfriend for almost a year and a half. before him, I dated a man that was 8 years old than me when I was 18 (i’m now 24) and developed very hard feelings for him expecially at my age. after 3 months of fun and intimacy he broke it off with me because he was getting back with his ex-girlfriend. I was, hurt, lost, confused, felt betrayed, and was just basically CRUSHED. I thought my world was ending. I couldn’t stop talking to him/seeing him even knowing what I knew because of the strong feelings that I had for him. He kept explaining to me that he had the same feelings as well. as time went on we continued to see each other, and without my knowing he got married and I never knew. It wasn’t until 6 months later that I found out for sure and he finally admitted it to me. once again I was CRUSHED, but thought for SURE I could win him back. He kept telling me that the only reason he wouldn’t leave her for me was becuase of the time difference, he knew her for 5 years and only knew me for not quite a year. LOUSY excuse. non the less, even STILL knowing what I knew, we continued to see each other and were still intimate. I wanted so bad for him to be mine, but he would never leave his wife. a couple years went by and he gave me the news that put the icing on the cake, they were expecting. I cried like I never cried before. I was DEVASTATED, because I knew now that I couldn’t mess up that childs life and get in the way of any of that. so I tried my hardest to do what I could with getting on with my life and moving on. I finally thought I had accomplished that. about a year and a half ago I met my boyfriend who means the world to me. He’s everything I ever wanted in a man. We’ve talked about getting married and are actually moving in together this weekend. sounds like i’ve moved on doesn’t it? well the problem is, I treat my boyfriend like crap because of what the previous guy did to me. I’m taking all the hurt and abuse and blaming it on my current boyfriend. The thing that sucks is I don’t know how to get rid of the past. I’ve tried SOOO hard to give him the love that he deserves but I can’t come to terms with why it’s so hard for me to do that…..ALSO when I was single and trying to get over him I would go out with my girlfriends to hide the pain, and now that I try to go out with them, I feel guilty because I’m not bringing the current boyfriend with me….I’m so confused!

It takes time but you will get there. It’s just a matter of when.

For me it took time, lots of time. Time to allow me to move on ever so slowly. I was with my ex for 5 1/2 years and stuck around for an amazing amount of garbage. I’ve heard other people say that it takes exactly half the time you were with your partner to get over the relationship and that is about the time it took for me to completely let go.

I also think it’s very important to keep yourself very busy while you are trying to get over the relationship. Set schedules for yourself that are very hard to break. Instead of being alone and sad at our former home I went to work overtime. Sure…. I’d be crying while I was there 6 days a week and 12 hours a day but I couldn’t leave, I couldn’t run off to try and find him. I was a massage therapist at the time and the whole time my clients would be face down, I would be crying – but in the end I built up an amazing client base that I couldn’t have done if I hadn’t been there so much :) – and let go at the same time, making a positive out of negative.

Try to find a friend that is going through a similar situation. It helps to be able to talk and talk and talk and cry about it to someone going through the same thing and it will take them longer to get sick of hearing it because they are dealing with the same emotions.

my boyfriend is always lost in his pass, he feels bad about had cheating on his wife while they were married. The marriage was very abusive not just on them but the kids as well and he felt it best if he left, that was four years ago. Since then he has been carrying on an enormus guilt about had leaving his kids. When he did leave he was the verge of suicide and sought out mental heath help. His twin sons are fine with the divorce and his leaving, they said they missed him but things got better. He however feels as though he turned his back on them, he paid his child support and saw them when he had days off, he is the only one that feels this way, he just can’t get past the hurtful feeling of the past and I don’t know what I can do being his girlfriend now..I love him so much and hate to see him so hurt all the time.

i mean he just dont wanna go!i do love him but not enuf am i wrong!

Can’t seem to get over it. Been a year next month. Same ole Same ole. Lying, cheating, drugs, stealing. Don’t know if it is the person or the feelings I can’t get over.

do it. just do it. it sucks so much at the beginning but it’s totally worth it once you move on.

i will not allow my heart to hurt any deeper than it already is. i will not allow my mind to think of you constantly. i will not allow my soul to act as if we are one. i will not allow my thoughts to place you above all else. i will not allow my imagination to think of what could have been. i will not allow my dreams to play games with my heart – picturing something that is not reality. i will not – i can’t – and i won’t – Because i deserve better. i’ve accomplished too much within myself to let this conquer my spirit.