stop being defensive

i need to stop defending myself when theres nothing to defend myself from.i built a wall up around myself to keep people out and now i want to knock it down but i have realised that i was also keeping things in.im waiting to hear about cbt and hopefully that will help me destroy alot of conditioned behaviours in me. 6 months ago

Im aware that I am more defensive than the average person and we can all hypothesize as to why that is but its a moot point. The point is Im defending myself for all the wrong reasons. Its bad enough that I can see it really affecting my work and I cant let it continue. I dont know where to start the stopping… Being aware of a problem doesnt do any good if youre not going to take the steps to reach a solution to the problem. I’ve read other posts here and consensus is that I need to take a deep breath before responding to what people say. I feel like Im going to be doing a lot of deep breathing excersises… 6 months ago