understand men

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blessing_kazim@yahoo.com 14 months ago

seriously! I don’t get them.. they are not simple..far from it! 3 years ago

Why is it that men will tell you “I’ll e-mail you ASAP” and four hours later you still haven’t gotten one? Sigh I will never understand. 3 years ago

One of my best friend’s first grader little sister was in the room when we were talking about guys one day and when I told her she should not date until she was much much older she chimed in with “About that… I had a boyfriend who was a second grader but I dumped him for my new boyfriend” to which my friend asks “Did he say he was our boyfriend or do you just like him?” We then have to explain to this seven year old that just liking someone does not make them your boyfriend…

Moral of the story: Even from a young age the opposite sex has us confused. 3 years ago

Last night reminded me how much guys really do confuse me. My best friend tells me he has feelings for me, and I see the last guy that really hurt me and he tells me he is sorry and hopes we can start talking again.

I totally do not understand men. 3 years ago

I recently broke up with my boyfriend of three months. We were great friends for ages and we still are now but we just went out and it was great. He had fancied me for ages and we were great together unitl the last week off our relationship he started to drift away from me…and then broke up with me. People just think he has problems and was afraid of how much he felt for me. I JUST DONT GET LADS AT ALL!!! 3 years ago

If men arent the most confusing creature on earth!!!! Do they really even understand themselvs??? One miute they want someone just like thier mother then the next minute they want you to act like a (bad girl) in bed? I dont think they know what they want except food and video games!! 3 years ago

not sure yet. I want to understand the manipulating kind, the stuborn kind, the kind that like women too much, or not at all, the kind that is only into sports, the kind that expects all kinds of male behaviors from other males and if they don’t get this they’ll be “disappointed”. 4 years ago

not sure yet. I want to understand the manipulating kind, the stuborn kind, the kind that like women too much, or not at all, the kind that is only into sports, the kind that expects all kinds of male behaviors from other males and if they don’t get this they’ll be “disappointed”. 4 years ago

I don’t get it. A guy I met by fluke a few months ago called me every other day for almost a month and a half. When he finally got up the courage to ask me out, he asked if he might have a chance. I told him i’d think about it, not wanting to seem too eager. We tried to make plans a few times, and he couldn’t show due to problems with scheduling. When we finally did meet up, we went out and kissed and that’s all. He said he really wanted to see me the next day. We couldn’t meet up due to his family visiting. The next day, he told me to drop by his work. I did, and he said he couldn’t wait to see me later that night. Nothing….hadn’t heard from him in over a week, then he texts me saying that he is only looking for ‘fun’. What the &*% is that about? He is begging for me to give him a chance, I do, then he pulls this? What the heck could he be thinking? I kind of like him. Should I give it a chance? ARGH!!!! 4 years ago

So gimme your insight.. Can someone really be in love with two people at once. I recently at back in contact with my first love (did not work out he moved away) we were kids ya know. I am in a relationship that is holding on by a thread to say the least and I want to get into something with old ex. Not sure what yet. He claims the same type of interest but is always claiming to be too “moody” or “in a mood” and can not talk. I feel like this is him saying he is not interested. Please comment if you will. 4 years ago

No one can understand men.
Men as a collective can never be understood because they’re all different. The bastards. They certainly don’t make it easy.

Men – they eat, sleep, drink beer, watch sports, chase sex.

That is all.

And that is my generalisation.

They’re lying bastards. (I’m not bitter :D)

No, men can be lovely, and I can’t say that we’d be better off without them, it’s just finding that Mr. Right that seems to be the difficult part. We have to wade through all the trash to get to the gold.

But even then, can you ever say that you understand men? I don’t think men understand men, let alone over analytical girls who wish they could just read their minds (well I do anyway). 4 years ago

men don’t make sense and they never will so I give up. what assholes. 4 years ago

Why are men so difficult? They really like to either be treated like assholes or they just like the bad life. It is so amazing that when you’re there on call. They don’t even aknowledge you but as soon as you turn your back around, then they come running back to you, they start being sweet and telling you how much they miss you and wondering why you are being so distant! am I right or what?... I think they just like to be either ignored, chased around or treated right back how they treat us! .. but you know what?.. that is what interests some girls, because these guys are hard to get, or they “spice” things up, it’s not boring even if they bring a little drama!!of course not all men are that way. There’s also, the “Good” kind, these are the type that you bring home to mom and they treat you like a princess, bring flowers, open doors, always on time, do as you please and are very predictable, always there when you need them if you say white, white goes,if you say black, black it is!!! these kind of guys gives us the control in the relationship but at the same time… doesnt it get boring… I mean if you appreciate the guy it’s okay as long as you don’t think he’s too needy! 4 years ago

Men being mysterious is sexy and attractive – however..when they just flat out don’t talk to you for days on end, it’s no longer mystery, it’s lameness. Men- you make no sence, if you don’t like a girl, don’t let her believe you do..and if you do like her, let it be known. Be straightforward and quit being such cowards. 4 years ago

Ok, so I need separation between my life and work. Well, my guy works with me and he wants to work all shifts together.. I thought guys were the ones that didn’t want YOU to be clingy. Well anyways.. I told him how I felt -said it as sweet as possible! Something on the lines of ‘when i’m working, I try not to make it personal -it’s as though I put on a character for my job.. Well, you are very personal to me, and it makes things difficult -I want to be with you, I miss and love you..but I just can’t do that. I can possibly work some shifts in good balance..’ I THOUGHT THAT WAS A GREAT ANSWER!!!!! ANd now he’s all upset with me!!! He’s sad and said he understands but it hurt his feelings! What am I supposed to do??? 4 years ago

How come when you need him the most he’s always to busy? 5 years ago

understand something that doesn’t make any sense? lol…

like they say: can’t live with ‘em, can’t live without ‘em.

i just have to love ‘em, though… who knows, maybe i’ll reopen this goal one day. for right now, i give up. 5 years ago

i;m not sure i’ll ever really understand them 5 years ago

it hasn’t been long since i got into the game of flirting and showing that I am open …and … the things that have happened ever since are amazingly weird and annoyingly vague … I no longer wish to blame myself for what happens but if I don’t then there must be something I’m not getting about the men’s way of thinking. I’m not suggesting that women are easy to figue out – God, we are mysteries too – but… I thought men had the reputation of being more straight forward… I am simply surprised! 5 years ago

just when i think i understand, im presented with the fact that i don’t! 5 years ago

I tried, really did. Can’t understand them. 5 years ago

What is it about the thought of a relationship that makes women look past the faults of their suitors and of themselves? Women are extraordinary beings on both emotional and intellectual levels. So why do we choose to create unstable situations for ourselves? I do it and just about every other female I know does it to some degree.

Ever see the movie Someone Like You? It’s a perfect depiction of what we do to ourselves. Even when we see WARNING signs, we look right past them and continue to jump into that black hole WE (women) call a “relationship” in hope that those thoughts were erroneous. We know better because 9 out of 10 times those thoughts/instincts/warning signs were perfectly valid. We can be our own worst enemy.

GOD, is cruel, on top of periods, pregnancy, and everything that comes along w/ both (e.g. irrational emotions & thoughts, bloating, labor, breast feeding, etc…) he/she/it gave us the instinct to nurture others, men included. Who by the way seem to have received the instinct to take advantage of this “quality”.

I consider myself a very strong, self sufficient woman, I know I need to let my guard down and not be afraid to open up, but I am human and have faults. I am also looking for someone w/ faults, I expect no one to be perfect. I fear what I have been looking for might not exist…. My list of about 20 items has been reduced to about 5. Even with standards lowered (or more realistic) it is still close to impossible to find. The worst part of this journey is that men will act the part, throw us a detour and we have to find our way back to the main road. Why can’t the male species just be honest? I know it might mean they won’t get laid as often, but women are human beings, not walking vaginas. Believe it or not, we have feelings and don’t appreciate detours if they are not necessary. The city wouldn’t block all lanes on a highway to fix a pothole on the shoulder. So why do men/boys? 5 years ago

Well, he said that he would be there for me all weekend after ignoring me all week. Heard nothing from him. I tried to call and tried to e-mail and I left him offline messages, but he ignored me. So can somebody please tell me why it could possibly be seen as justified by a man to do those things?

~~Strife 5 years ago

I’m reading books that are supposed to be for men. I already read books for women that are supposed to help us understand men, but I’m finding that men have a completely different way of processing information than we do. I thought that it was just women that made a big deal out of little things, but what it really comes down to, is that both genders see certain things as very important, and we fail to recognize that alot of the time. 5 years ago

Ok, it is official, I am trying so hard, and I just can’t get them! I read “Women come from Venus, Men come from Mars”, and I thought I had understood at last the main differences… but why on Earth if a man supposedly loves you that much, has spent a month away from you? I know he has to work and stuff, but he just confuses me so much!! He talks about wanting to get married but we haven’t seen each other in 4 weeks!! And it seems to be taking longer!! I am so sad and confused, I hate it.
Oh, but gotta love men, that’s for sure. 5 years ago

I admire men and I can’t hate on them. In relationships, I think they put up with just as much bullshit as we do.

But, the only man I trust is my dad. 5 years ago

Why do men lie and then try to cover their asses badly when I clearly caught them? It just makes me mad. Any man care to tell me why other men lie to their girlfriends? Any takers?

~~Strife 5 years ago

I think I understand men a lot more than I do women. The majority of my friends are guys and I like it that way. I just want to understand a little more. 5 years ago

When youve only had guy friends for 8 years..you begin to learn a thing or two lol 5 years ago