I was too forgiving. He was divorced for only a year, unemployed & living off his parents, placed the blame for his problems on others, etc. Needless to say, it did not work out, and here I am upset & alone again.

I think I need to reassert standards for myself. It’s hard for me to balance having standards & being understanding. I can go from being picky to giving someone the benefit of the doubt TOO much & in either case am not very realistic…. 20 months ago