Break the Hearts of Many Men

yes, not breaking hearts can be fun ;o)

Well, as usual, not everything played out as organized (which is why I typically overplan).

Friday night – turned into a 2nd date with Real Estate guy. We went to two restaurants in Arlington, VA that I had never been too. He’s very easy to talk to and so funny; could turn into a good friend.

Sat 10am – 1st date – coffee with Navy Cptn. He’s super intelligent, OMG! I learned soooo much about his line of work it was amazing. Even though there were no sparks, I will keep in touch with him for business reasons.

Sat afternoon/evening – Personal Trainer had a family emergency with someone in the hospital. I was very tempted to call on some other prospects to fill the time, but I surprised myself and sat at home and watched the Reno 911 Marathon, the Apprentice and about 20 other shows I haven’t seen in forever. It was a nice date with myself that I haven’t had in a long time.

Sun Afternoon – 2nd Date Young Govt IT guy – I actually changed this to just lunch, because of my thoughts from this past week. He was MUCH more relaxed and less over bearing. I actually had a very nice time.

Sun PM – 1st Date – Coffee with IT guy – nice guy, but not 2nd date worthy.

All in all a nice time, but I am getting a tad burnt out by all the dates. I think you have to do this kind of stuff in stages, and can’t go a million miles an hour constantly, otherwise you might as well jump off a cliff, LOL!

But then again, who knows what I’ll be saying in 2 weeks ;o)

I’ve got dates lined up for my upcoming free time.

Friday night – 1st date -coffee/drinks with funny govt guy
Sat 10am – 1st date -rescheduled coffee with Navy Cptn
Sat afternoon/evening – 4th Date – Ice Skating & Dinner with Personal Trainer
Sun Am/Afternoon – 2nd Date – Church & Museum with Young Govt IT guy
Sun PM – 1st Date – Coffee with IT guy

okay, we’ve got some guys from 2 weeks ago still in this mix because I can’t make up my mind.

I really like Personal Trainer, he’s in his 40’s, divorced, hot as heck, very worldly, competitive, (btw – his job is a lot more then just a personal trainer, but I don’t want to give too much detail) and when I’m on the phone with him he’s hillarious & outgoing. In person, not so much.

I’m not sure if he’s nervous when he’s with me, or if there is not as much attraction on his end. We talk almost every day, and he text’s me a few x a day. Tonight he told me that “you’ve got me wrapped around your finger and I know you love that”. What?!!! I had noooo idea…

Question 1 – What Should I say (if anything) to get to his real thoughts about me? I’m not looking to see if he’s in any kinda “L” word, I’m just looking for some direction…

Young Govt IT guy, actually because of your comments, I’m cutting him some slack and have decided to keep in contact with him and see him again. He lives not too far from me and goes to the same church I go to, that’s the reason we’re starting out there ^{plus, I need all the pew time I can get}. Afterwards we’re heading off to a museum.

As a recap – he’s 33, never been married, no kids. I’m kinda against that, since I’m a single mom with a lot of responsibility and I eventually want someone who I don’t have to train..LOL.

The problem is that EVERY single conversation or email I have with him, he goes on and on about how smitten he is with me, how he understands that I have parent duties, how he’s patient and willing to wait for me, how he’s been thinking about me, and that he’s such a good catch because xyz… He’s funny, and has a cool & interesting job, is worldly. But this self-confidence thing that these young boys bring to the table irks me to no end!

Question 2 – What should I tell him to get him to quit selling himself to me?

All the guys were sweet and nice, but they just made it to the friend realm.

I’m actually not sure about the Personal Trainer – getting mixed signals on that one. Last night we had a fun time and he opened up a lot more… but I’m assuming it’s not going anywhere.

~ archeologist – a hunk and interesting, but really no sparks.
~ realtor – cute and nice, but not my speed
~ govt IT guy – sweet, but at 33 he’s too young for me, and I don’t think I can get over it.

The Navy guy rescheduled for next week and tomorrow I’m meeting with the other government IT guy.

Ahh, I had higher hopes for this weekend, but, alas not meant to be.

Finally have a free weekend, and it’s been a long time coming. This weekend I have 5 coffee dates and a Third date set up.

Soooo happy to be able to devote some time and attention to my social life.

Of the gentlemen I’m meeting:

Going on a 3rd date to Dinner with a Personal Trainer, he’s got a very dry sense of humor and is totally hillarious once you get him going. I’m still not sure if my ‘Liciousness will make up for my obvious lumpiness, but that may be my own self concious thoughts… we’ll see.

The coffee dates include – a former Navy Captain, an archeologist, a realtor & 2 govt IT guys.

I was on the www.AlexandriaVA.gov site researching something and I happened upon the the Office of Women

Your Dating Rights – Each dating partner has the right to:
~ Be treated with respect
~ Ask for what they want
~ Be accepted for who they are
~ Feel safe
~ Say no
~ Talk openly
~ Make their own decisions
~ Not be forced to do anything
~ Be treated equally
~ Have fun!

Hey guys, even my local government agrees – IT IS MY RIGHT TO HAVE FUN and I WILL exercise it!!!

I enjoyed the break at home, but my love life was in constant critique. EVERYTHING was up for grabs, and after a while, it got past annoying.

While my 60yo aunt was giving me giving me bedroom advice OMG! shutupppppp!....lalalalal I can’t hear you, the worst was the fact that for two days I was consistently told to call a former friend to tell him I was in town. I explained to the entire family many times that:
a) I didn’t want to for many good reasons;
b) he actually DID know I was there, but it didn’t matter;
c) even if a) & b) weren’t in the picture, it still wouldn’t be a good idea

Finally on Saturday, after a lot of drinking I opened up to the notion… accckkk!

More drinking, shots of vodka, schnapps, lemon-something and more fruity drinks… the more I communicated!

ACCCKKK!!!

I was mortified in the morning!

So, I’ve been a little unpressured to do anything about the architect (given my cowardly ways, it’s of no surprise in this situation) and he has been sending me endearing emails and texts.

Not wanting to be rude, I’m responding, politely, but not overly interested.

The good news is I can’t get together with him, even if I wanted to for 3 weeks because I’m going out of town for Turkey Day weekend.

My impulse is to just let it die a natural death… but do you have any opinions on how I should carry this out? I need suggestions and tips….

The Architect and I went to a reception this weekend. He’s a nice, sweet guy, but I think too shy and inhibited for me. The only thing he could do by himself was get a drink and go to the bathroom.

His conversations were again, centered around him and (this is the worst) he started to repeat the same stories. (How can you see someone 4x, in 3 weeks and already you’ve run out of new stuff to talk about?) And when I would try to broaden the subject, he would turn it back around to himself…. blah!

I tried to loosen him up, but really it was just irritating to me. Why deal with that?!

He texted me over the weekend telling me what a great time he had, especially dancing with me (in reality he was about a foot away the entire time and I felt not one ounce of connection in our dance, much less the entire night).

Don’t know how it’s gonna go down, but I do want to be gentle. He’s a nice guy, but not a keeper for the ‘Liciousness.

Had a coffee date today, he’s a numbers guy, works as a civilian for the military. Wears glasses that make him actually look smartly handsome.

His picture was not as cute as he was in person (a rarity). And did I mention he’s smart? Now, normally I give the smart boys a run for their money. I can talk a million miles an hour about 30 different subjects… and actually, I like talking like that. This usually doesn’t go well with the intellectual types.

But Numbers Guy was different, he was gentle – but not a pushover. This is interesting…

He actually said when we were leaving “I’ve never had as much fun on a first meeting as I did today. I’m so glad I met you and can’t wait to see you again.” Well, he’s certainly got the worship Jennalicious part down.

We’ve got lunch planned next, we’ll have to see…