figure out when and where we are going to get married!!!

putting this aside for now. not going ot happen anytime soon with the way things are going right now!

is it really true that people will accept that you can do whatever you want for your wedding? as i’ve mentioned before, eloping is looking great to me from a financial standpoint as well as avoiding the inevitable drama which would ensue from his side of the family (e.g., dramatic mom, bipolar sister, many children)... i don’t want the wedding to become a circus and the best way to do it is to avoid having certain people there. i feel horrible saying that but it’s true. and while i wouldn’t mind a FEW children being there, he’s got 15 nieces and nephews, plus all of his friends have kids. is it mean to say no kids (besides his kids, obviously)? esp when you KNOW that most of them probably wouldn’t come b.c. they can’t afford a babysitter or are offended the kids are excluded? i mean, i guess it solves the problem in a way but by KNOWING that would probably offend some of them, it seems wrong. plus none of my friends and family members have children. when some of his nieces and nephews come over to our house to play with his kids it just gets so hectic and chaotic. gives me a headache!
running away and getting married somewhere sounds nice, but my family has always been so good to me that i don’t want it to be a slap in the face to them. i think i may just talk to my parents and see if theyd be upset if we just went away somewhere for the ceremony and had a party when we got back. or a nice meal at a restaurant. i know there are no ‘rules’ but my family is fairly traditional. man, i just wish he came from a normal family!!!

eloping. have been for quite some time, but i wanted to get through my sister’s wedding first and see if i would feel disappointed if i personally missed out on the typical ceremony and reception. and i don’t think i’d be upset. am going to look into vegas – not a drive-thru place, someplace decent. i know in jamaica and other islands they will include the ceremony and mini-reception if you book a few nights with them so i am going to see if there are more ‘active’ places that do the same. im thinking that i would open the invite to whoever wants to go a few months ahead of time with the warning that there will not be some extravagent reception, but with a place like vegas i am sure nobody would be upset about that, nor about me not spending valuable honeymoon time with them as my ‘guests’... too many options for all to really care (at least that is my reasoning!)