Three and a half years with a guy….four years of us being friends…gone…today is the 9th day since it happened…my birthday is soon…I feel horrible, depressed, lonely, I cry all the time, I don’t have any energy or motivation…I’m not even taking care of my personal hygiene although I should be…I don’t care about anything anymore :’( 14 months ago

I don’t ever remember having get over my first love as a goal. It’s funny because about2 years ago I sent him a friend request on facebook and he started calling me. We were seriously discussing getting back together for a while but eventually just got sick of each other. I can’t beleive I had troulble getting over someone that I had absolutely nothing in common with. Sometimes absence makes the heart grow fonder. the person you are having troulble getting over might not even be that great. 18 months ago

It has been over 20 years since me and my first love broke up, yet no matter what I do he is always in the back of my mind. I have been married for 19 years and I have a great husband, but I always wonder why I didn’t marry my true love. Is he my soul mate? Every so often he finds me or I find him, whether it’s by email or text or even Facebook and we catch up. We have never been brave enough to meet up, but he always asks me to meet him for lunch or drinks. I have never cheated on my husband but I have visualized it and often wish I had never met my husband. It sounds horrible, I know but my heart always lead me back to him. Recently he reached me and asked me to meet for lunch. I know this is very dangerous, but my curiosity is taking over!! I think I will always love him and I think life is not fair that it led us both in two different directions. He clearly feels the same, because no matter what, he always tries to find me… I married the wrong person, and I caused him to do the same! It was my fault to leave because I was so young. 21 months ago

and after being strung along this past yr. I find he is dating someone!!!! I am shaking and in tears….I don’t know how to get over him!!!! 21 months ago

I met a special girl this fall at college. When the spring semester came around, we started hanging out and getting close. She told me that she had just broken up with her ex over Christmas (right after I asked her out for Valentine’s Day :( ) and wasn’t ready for a relationship, but that the future was still unknown. After some prodding from my friends, I stayed in the game, but gave her plenty of room. Over the semester, we kept hanging out together, but I never pressured her towards anything. With a few weeks left of school, she told me that she wasn’t ready now, but she wanted to go for it after summer. After a nice ending to the school year, we both went our separate ways for the summer, on what I though were good terms. One week into summer she told me that she didn’t feel anything for me and never has, so it would be best to just break things off now. I was crushed. After all of my support and kindness, and after making myself vulnerable to her, she crushed me. The worst part is that I just can’t get her off of my mind. I cared for her unconditionally and the feelings won’t wear off. It may be my fault for getting so involved, but I can’t change what I have done. Now I know that I need to move forward, but I have no idea how. 23 months ago

Still on this Roller-coaster of life…... 23 months ago